Anniversary
05-01-2011, 01:29 PM
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Today would of been my 47 anniversary DH passed little over 4 years. I know most people don't celebrate annivesaries when their spouse has already passed but to me this is still an important day in my life. I didn't expect a celebration but my children have all seemed to forget that this day is special to me. Didn't get a call from any of them to inquire what kind of day I am having. It would of made my day a little less lonely. Thanks for letting me vent and thanks to those that understand my feelings
05-01-2011, 02:10 PM
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I'm sure your kids thought about your anniversary too! When my mom's comes around I just don't know whether or not to mention it. I guess I should know that she is thinking about my dad and I won't make her any sadder by mentioning it. They would have been married 65 years this past Feb.
05-01-2011, 02:10 PM
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Happy Anniversary to you. I'm sorry for your loss. I've learned to never count on anybody. You just have to make it the kind of day you want it to be. Maybe your children didn't say anything or send any card because they didn't want you to hurt.
05-01-2011, 02:26 PM
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The first couple of years I sent cards then called after that. Their marriage honestly wasn't the best, but they stayed together for 47 years and that is very important. In current society there seems to be a philosoPhy of "moving on" and in listening to the pop psychologists of the day they may be concerned they might make the day more difficult for you. As Someone currently married for 32 years and the mother of 2 grown sons I'd like to suggest something. Call them and keep it on the positive side such as "was thinking of your dad today and the anniversary we..." or any memory that would be special to that child and end with "guess I thought of it since this is our anniversary". Sometimes we have to initiate what we need from others because it doesn't occur to them. Happy anniversary, I wish you many special memories today and always.
05-01-2011, 02:29 PM
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Originally Posted by Cybrarian
The first couple of years I sent cards then called after that. Their marriage honestly wasn't the best, but they stayed together for 47 years and that is very important. In current society there seems to be a philosoPhy of "moving on" and in listening to the pop psychologists of the day they may be concerned they might make the day more difficult for you. As Someone currently married for 32 years and the mother of 2 grown sons I'd like to suggest something. Call them and keep it on the positive side such as "was thinking of your dad today and the anniversary we..." or any memory that would be special to that child and end with "guess I thought of it since this is our anniversary". Sometimes we have to initiate what we need from others because it doesn't occur to them. Happy anniversary, I wish you many special memories today and always.
Hope your memories are mostly happy ones.
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