Let your 4 year old play with it. He decided he wanted to "create" a block well I just let him have it. He went to areas and did things that I had no idea how to do. So there it is in a nut shell. I never thought I would get to this point in my life. I was always the go to girl for stuff like this WHEN DID I GET OLD!!!. Ok I'm better but seriously I guess all you need to do is just play and not worry about doing something wrong or making a mistake!! Have fun!!!