Friends and honesty
#1
I am curious as to how you all feel about your friendships. Do you want your friends to be honest with you about everything, or only when you ask for it?
I believe in total honesty instead of saying what someone wants to hear, and have been faulted for it. I am only asking to know what the majority feel about this.
If you lost a friendship because of being honest, would you regret it?
I believe in total honesty instead of saying what someone wants to hear, and have been faulted for it. I am only asking to know what the majority feel about this.
If you lost a friendship because of being honest, would you regret it?
#5
imho there is a difference in honesty and and being cruel i believe that in a friendship you can be honest in a loving and kind way. If i think what I am going to say may damage the friendship I would not say it or would try to say it in a different way. It all depends on the value of the friendship.It just like your mom used to tell you if you cant say something nice dont say anything at all.
#6
I definitely believe in being honest, but I also believe in being tactful with that honesty. The way you say what you say can either be hurtful or helpful. Strive to only be helpful. If it could be hurtful, try to find a way to say it that will take as much of the sting away as possible.
Recently a friend was complaining about a mutual friend who has been having a pretty rough time of it being a real grump. I reminded him that he was the same way last year when he had been having a bad spell. His response was along the lines of "Was I really that bad?" and I told him (with a grin and a hug) that he was worse! If I had just barked at him, he would probably have been offended, but as it was, he kind of hung his head and said "Yeh, guess I was".
Recently a friend was complaining about a mutual friend who has been having a pretty rough time of it being a real grump. I reminded him that he was the same way last year when he had been having a bad spell. His response was along the lines of "Was I really that bad?" and I told him (with a grin and a hug) that he was worse! If I had just barked at him, he would probably have been offended, but as it was, he kind of hung his head and said "Yeh, guess I was".
#7
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Originally Posted by sewwhat85
imho there is a difference in honesty and and being cruel i believe that in a friendship you can be honest in a loving and kind way. If i think what I am going to say may damage the friendship I would not say it or would try to say it in a different way. It all depends on the value of the friendship.It just like your mom used to tell you if you cant say something nice dont say anything at all.
#8
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I don't have a lot of "friends" although I have plenty of "acquintances" and that is my choice, but I don't hold back on speaking my mind, although I would never intentionally say anything to hurt anyone's feelings. If you can't speak the truth to a friend, then I don't think it's much of a friendship. My opinion.
#9
Originally Posted by frauhahn
The way I see it, if you can't be honest with a friend, it isn't much of a friendship. . .
#10
Originally Posted by frauhahn
The way I see it, if you can't be honest with a friend, it isn't much of a friendship. . .
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