Welcome to the Quilting Board!

Already a member? Login above
To post questions, help other quilters and reduce advertising (like the one on your left), join our quilting community. It's free!

Page 1 of 2 1 2 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 15

Thread: The Good Wife's Guide, Circa 1955

  1. #1
    Super Member
    Join Date
    Jan 2010
    western ny
    I heard this today and thought I would share.

    The Good Wife's Guide, Circa 1955

    Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.
    Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
    Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
    Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dustcloth over the tables.
    During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
    Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet.
    Be happy to see him.
    Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
    Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
    Don't greet him with complaints and problems.
    Don't complain if he's late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through at work.
    Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
    Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
    Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.
    A good wife always knows her place.

  2. #2
    Super Member lovingmama's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2010
    Blog Entries
    Where is the good husband guide? :P

  3. #3
    Super Member redkimba's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2009
    North Texas
    Quote Originally Posted by lovingmama
    Where is the good husband guide? :P
    I searched on Google to see if there was one & came up with this from/by Leanne Bell:

    It would have been called "The Good Husband's Guide", and it would have gone something like this:

    * Always make getting and keeping a full-time job with regular raises, benefits, bonuses and the potential for prestigious advancement your number one priority in life. Remember always that you have a wife and children who need your financial support, and that it is your responsibility to provide for them to the best of your ability.

    * Always arrive home refreshed and happy - put your bad day or your confrontation with your boss, the traffic, the crowds or the physical exhaustion you might feel aside and try to arrive home as cheery and lighthearted as you possibly can. Your wife has been struggling with the children and the housework all day, she does not need to hear about how bad your day was.

    * Be prepared to help with household chores when you get home - let your wife relax or talk on the phone since she has been dealing with these problems all day. Make supper for her often, and offer to clean up afterwards so that she may rest and feel appreciated.

    * Do not bore your wife with stories of the troubles you faced at work today. Remember that you are lucky to have a job and that many other men would be happy to trade places with you. Remember that it is not masculine to complain or let worries trouble you. Your job is to provide, and whatever you must go through to achieve this is part of your lot in life. A good husband knows that he is lucky to have a wife at all, and that a woman wants a strong, silent man she can depend on.

    * Never expect your wife to have contributed to the smooth operation of the household. She has had a busy day and cannot be expected to provide meals or clean clothes for you. Never insult her by asking her to do such things while you're out earning money. Be mindful always that your wife may think you are being sexist if you ask her to help make a home for your family as part of your partnership.

    * Be prepared to account for your whereabouts every minute of the day, including an explanation as to why you were away from the phone when she tried to call or why you were unable to chat with her for twenty minutes when she did get through to you. You must always put her interests first, and be mindful of her natural suspicion about her husband's activities. A good husband knows that men can't be trusted, and that a wife has every reason to believe you will hurt and humiliate her.

    * Do not grumble or gripe about handing over your paycheque to her - she is in control of your finances and knows better than you how to spend or invest your money. Never assume that the money you earn is yours to do with as you will - you have a family to think about now, and their needs must always come before your own.

    * Listen avidly to your wife's complaints. She leads a hectic life and needs to feel listened to and appreciated. Never suggest ways in which she might solve whatever problem is vexing her. You need only listen; your suggestions are likely insensitive and unfeeling anyway. And do not counter with complaints of your own. She would love to have the chance to leave the house and work, she does not need to hear about how difficult your job is.

    * Be prepared to give up your weeknights or weekends to whatever projects or socializing your wife has in mind. If she has determined that cleaning out the garage or painting the upstairs bathroom would be the best use of your time, never complain that you would like to relax or pursue personal interests instead. She has every right to expect that you will make repairs to the house or help her redecorate during your time off. Do not be so selfish as to ask for personal time. You are a family man now, you do not have the luxury of personal time.

    * Always be prepared to take over in caring for the children when you get home from work. Your wife has been busy all day and deserves some quiet time. Allow her to watch television or chat with her friends on the phone, go shopping or simply relax. They are your children too, and it is unfair of you to expect to come home from a twelve hour day and simply put your feet up.

    * Never grumble about having to support children you didn't want to have. If you were irresponsible enough to help her get pregnant, then it is your duty to pay for that child for the next eighteen years. If you decide to have sex, you must know that pregnancy may result and be fully prepared to take responsibility for it. This, of course, does not apply to her. She doesn't have to be responsible for her actions, and can abort a child she conceived any time she wants, whether this breaks your heart or not. Accept this stoically. She has the special privilege of being able to kill her unborn child, carry it to term and give it up for adoption, or have it and raise it all by herself if she wants, but you have the responsibility of simply living with whatever choice she makes and quite often paying for it, too. Remember, you have no right to be a parent and no right not to be a parent, you are just a man. A good husband knows his place.

    EDIT - I don't agree with this last paragraph, but try to see it in the same vein/original place from the 1955 "Perfect Wife" idea

  4. #4
    Super Member ptquilts's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2010
    nowadays a wife is supposed to do all that and go to work as well!!

  5. #5
    Moderator QuiltnNan's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2011
    western NY formerly MN, FL, NC, SC
    Blog Entries
    Quote Originally Posted by lovingmama
    Where is the good husband guide? :P
    LOL :lol: :lol:

  6. #6
    Senior Member fabrichore's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2010
    Phillipston, MA
    I would not of made a good wife in the fifties....LOL

  7. #7
    Senior Member Candela59's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2009
    Mesa, Arizona
    LMAO! I almost spit a mouthful of tea all over my monitor! Where's the Good Husband Guide?

    That said I must admit that I do my best to make sure "OUR" home is a peaceful and restful place for the "BOTH" of us...our sanctuary!

    I'm a homemaker and I appreciate how hard DH works and do everything I can when he comes home to make him feel welcome and comfortable...but he does the same for me! We're equal partners in this relationship and we "BOTH" have full time jobs!

    No wonder women were sooooo frustrated...geez!

  8. #8
    Super Member
    Join Date
    Oct 2010
    Wow shows how times have changed.

  9. #9
    Super Member LyndaOH's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2011
    northwest Ohio
    So happy times have changed!

    There was a great episode of NCIS based on the Good Wife's Guide, if you ever get a chance to see it.

  10. #10
    Super Member icon17's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2010
    I just told my Hubby of 39years of this 1955 article, I quote "You better follow It!" My anser! :lol: :lol: :lol:

Page 1 of 2 1 2 LastLast

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts

SEO by vBSEO ©2011, Crawlability, Inc.