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Thread: My empty nest is Blue

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    Super Member kwhite's Avatar
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    I am feeling really down today. My only child, my daughter has kind of moved out as of last week. She is truly my best friend and I miss her so much. When we talk she is kinda distant and wrapped up in her own life. I know intellectually that this is how it should be but it is still hard. She will be leaving for camp in a couple of weeks and I will not be able to talk to her much at all over the summer. Someone please tell me she will get back to being my best friend again soon. I am fine with her having her own life but can't she have her own life and be my best friend too? She is on a first date tonight with a new guy that I really like. I hope it is all going well.

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    Don't know how old your daughter is, but it is natural for them to move away from us. Hang in there, by the time she is 30 you will be the smartest person she knows! :D :D




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    No matter how old they are they do think of us. I've been divorced since the beginning of this year and my dd has a boyfriend as well. I know that they have lives and I need to get on with myself but we keep contact by phoning, texting, chatting or emailing. It does feel empty for me without my two children who are grown adults but I know they love me. {{{HUGS}}}

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    I know how you feel, my daughter (only child) moved out about 6 years ago when she was 18 to live with her boyfriend, now husband. That was the hardest thing for me to accept. The empty nest syndrome does eventually go away, but your best friend will always be there. She will always need you as a mother and as a friend. When my daughter got married 3 years ago, I was her Matron of Honor and that made me feel real special. She now has a daughter herself, and we are really close. I watch my granddaughter alot and my daughter really likes that I am there to help.

    Trust me it will get better. It will take some time to get used to it, but, it does get better. It is hard to let go, but you have to for her sake as well as your own, but remember they always come back.

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    When the kids move out, their lives are pretty full and busy. They do think of us, but it is normal for us to miss them more than they miss us :wink: Soon, that newness wears off and then they call/keep in touch more often...all on their own :D :D I kept calling at regular intervals, invite them over for meals, sent goodies home with them, and in no time they were dropping in unannounced for meals, use of laundry facilities, and some of mom's love and attention :lol: :lol: :roll: :roll: :lol: :lol:

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    Sooooooooooooo.....what pattern have you picked out for your next quilt or project? I know everyone is different but when I feel down nothing picks me up like going to my favorite LQS and fondling the new fabric! Sometimes I buy and sometimes I just look but I feel inspired either way.

    I don't mean to sound rash but she will be calling you before you know it......just give her time.....and space.......she will be back.

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    My only daughter (I also have two boys) just graduated college last week and came back home for one month. She starts grad school in september, but will set up an aprtment in NYC with her boyfriend and try to get a summer job. I am going to miss her a lot but know that is the best thing for her. He are having a great time going around the house selecting things I can do without and she will need.
    (I will be moving soon myself and am very happy that she is taking a lot of things I have so I don't have to move it)

    I keep telling mself that she is happy and that's all that matter. I will never expect her to stay in this town with nothing for her when she can go to the big city and live it before she settles for a family. I left my mother and now she is my best friend. I am sure my daughter will be my best friend always too.

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    All of our kids are moved out, but they call and email and come visit. Even though they are far away, there is always a special place for "home" and "mom". The VERY coolest thing is that they were born and raised in WY. Then when I remarried 5 years ago and moved to Utah, they say they are coming "home". Home is where love is, and each other, and mom. When the youngest one leaves it's always the hardest.

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    My heart goes out to you. When my youngest daughter went to collage I cried so much. I had prepared her to fly, but hadn't prepared myself. She is still my best friend, but it is somewhat different. I have gotten used to the change and all is well now.

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    It does get better, honest!
    Just gotta let them spread their wings for a bit, but she'll soon be back to being your best friend!

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