Just wanted to take a few and say hi again and let you all know that today sucks so far as I miss her alot, more so now than at first, but I know she is in a good place and loving what she is able to do now and with whom she can do it.

I just saw the thread about thinking of loved ones who have gone "home" and it is a good one!

Please Please!!! If you are not feeling "Normal" and think you need to get it checked, then do so!! And then get a second opinion!!!! This is critical!! I have come to learn that is something you owe to everyone around to give the opportunity to spend time with and enjoy your company and just BE THERE!

Take NOTHING FOR GRANTED! Appreciate all things for what they are meant to be! There is no set time line and no one knows when it will be gone in nothing more than a heartbeat, or just the simple thing as a beautiful breath of fresh air!

Because you just never when you will have to say goodbye to something so precious and beautiful. At 37 you are not supposed to bury your wife, but it happens all the time and life does go forward. You don't "move on" you just go through it! And it pushes you back alot of the time, but it does get better and things go smoother and eventually the bad fades and it is less hurtful. Days go by very slowly, yet the months seem to fly by, strange it works that way. Today is three months and six days! Only know that because today would have been her 37 birthday.

So take a few and tell that someone you care about them, and make sure they know it! I would ask ya' all to keep what I typed in mind when your health exams are due!!! You owe it to those who care about and to rob them of that time and opportunity is a crime against life itself! Don't be a robber!!! Ya' all take care now!

Happy Birthday Goofus! (Cathy, adriansmom) From that ol' guy who misses her deeply.

Well said..We miss her too.

(((HUGS))) to you and Adrian (((HUGS)))

Same here.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this special day with us. Blessings to you and Adrian!

And yes, taking good care of yourself and your loved ones is important. My DH had bypass surgery last month and is doing well, thanks to an alert doctor who referred him to a specialist when he began having serious blood pressure issues. The problem was the arteries around his heart.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us.

I am sure that this is a diffucult day for both you and Adrian. ((((((hugs))))))

Hello. Glad you have come back to share some time with us. I know you miss her very much. Some day you will know what people mean when they tell you that 'time heals'.

Arron, we are so glad that you come here to share your feelings. Like you, we miss Cathy very much. I have lost both my father and a sister, so I can say from my heart that time does help.

Happy Birthday Cathy! You and Adrian should have a birthday cake in her honor. She would love that! :D

This touched me today. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

Thank you so much for writing this today. Big hugs to you and Adrian.

catching up. As a quilter, you have such a connection to other 'like souls', I feel like I knew Cathy through your postings, Aaron.
Your a dear spirit and so glad you honor Cathy and Adrian this way.
Happy birthday, Cathy. You are so loved. Mousie

God bless you ... may the Lord watch over you and your family ...

God bless you and give you strength.

Your family is in my thoughts today. I know the holidays coming up will be hard too. I lost my Darling Daughter just over a year ago. I still think of her every day, but the pain has softened. I try to keep the good memories alive to replace the sadness.
Your family will get through this, one day at a time. Just keep loving each other. That's what she would want....

Sending Hugs!!!!!

Since I just lost my sister I can really share your pain today, we just must remember the good times we shared and that will keep us strong.

I know this has to be so painful for you today. But after today, this is another of the firsts that you will have to get through. You are so strong! You can do it. For you & for Adrian. And Cathy would want you to. I like to think that she smiles down at you daily. Adrian is fortunate to have such a great Dad! I have kept & will cont. to keep you & your little boy in my prayers. I appreciate you for posting today. I wake up each day & am happy that I did so & that I can get out of bed and experience whatever the Lord has planned for me. Please do keep in touch here. I wish I had the chance to have gotten to know Cathy. I am a Cathy also. Give Adrian a huge hug! Hugs to you too.

Keep being strong.

You and Adrian have been in my thoughts all day today. I send you hugs. Every time I drive by your old house I think of you two and hope things are getting better.

Thank you for stopping by and sharing. Bless you.

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heh! Old house, yeah that is something that I know will never again be mine. That was literally a lifetime ago. And now..that life is over and it is time to turn a page and start out in a new chapter, as a Phase 2 if you will.

Cathy was a riot sometimes. But the one thing that I always came to trust was when she would stop me from saying something dumb. HA HA HA!! I have done that a few times lately. She would see me raise and eyebrow and start to open my mouth and she would just say, Arron, stop! Not the time! Let it go!" HA HA HA!!! I sure wish I could post pictures because there is an awesome one of her I put up on my Facebook page! One of the last I took of her. She blew an entire weeks worth of my pay to have a NICE outfit for a wedding reception. I didn't say a word to her! I did kind of do the Horse sound under my breath as I saw the receipts!!! HA HA!! But was so upset about it. i told her not to worry about it as she needed a nice set of clothes. And I mean SET!!!; underwear, skirt, blouse, cover vest, new make up, and even SHOES!!! But she did look amazing! And her smile and the way she has her arms......... yeah. Need to stop now!

I hope ya' all have had a good one! Enjoy those little things.

7-3's Ya' all! 7-3 is best wishes in HAM talk by the way.

I know the coming holidays will be hard, stay strong. It is so hard to lose people you love. Thanks for writing what you did.

Hang in there, Aaron...remember baby steps...little by little you will heal, somedays worse than others...{{{HUGS}}}

I, for one, am so glad that you come to us when you are having bad days or good days. Even though I never met Cathy, I did correspond with her just a bit. One day at a time!

Arron, this post touched me deeply & profoundly the other day when I read it. I am a new member here & did have the opportunity to share posts with Cathy. I had to go back & read up on her posts. I actually cried when I read of the fire, then the group joining hands to aid the family, a member donating a sewing machine & other members sending fabrics, notions, etc.

I hope that your home has or is being rebuilt & you & Adrian are rebuilding & healing too.

Anyway, I made her cauliflower soup...HA! I loved it & so did my family. Thank you Cathy!

God bless

Ditter, I am so sorry for your loss. My brother passed at age 37 so I understand how difficult this is for you. Do you have other children? I am fortunate to have three more brothers but he was so special , I always felt like he was my own child. I feel tha way about all of them. Here are hugs, and more hugs.

I'm so sorry for your loss!! You will survive but you will never forget. When I lost my brother at a young age, when trying to console my Mother I said we were very lucky because GOD gave him to us and not to some other family. We were privileged to have had him with us. Hope you can see it that way also. Maybe not today but soon.

I lost my daughter 3 years ago - 5 days before her 28th birthday. I pass the cross her "brother" made for her twice a day. I too, know she's in a MUCH better place. If you've had words with someone , or haven't told someone "I love you" lately, do it!!! :)

My heart goes out to you in this difficult adjustment in life. Just "hang in there" as the saying goes, time DOES heal -- we never get over missing our loved ones but we do learn to cope better. I think of it as a cut on our finger -- it hurts alot at first but heals and leaves a scar which will always be there but does not hurt. I was a widow at 33 years of age and over the years have lost parents and other near and dear to me so I speak from experience. Mrs. Sew 'n Sew

Hugs

Anyway, I made her cauliflower soup...HA! I loved it & so did my family. Thank you Cathy!

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Yeap "she"( I had to do all the major work! HA HA HA HAHA!!) made it several times and each time it came out great! There is just something about CHEESE!!! HA HA!!!

That is one thing thing that I am not sure I want to have again. Along with the "chili" she made. She never really taught me how to make it! There is a specific amount of things and it is cooked for only so long and all that. Another one that she "took" with her. Ah heck maybe someday when we meet again I hope she has pot of it waiting by that ol' campfire.

Now there is a comforting thought! He he!

I did find a "support group" on-line and it is a great place! Most everyone is allowed to type what they want, sometimes it gets heated, but for the most part they say; "everyone there 'GET'S IT'!" Those that do not are referred to as DGI's. Doesn't Get It or Don't Get It. Gotta' love that logic!!! HA HA HA!!!!

I have even met with another local gal from that web-site and we have set up a monthly "dinner" for us "wid's" here in town, she is kind of running point on it though. She loves doing these!
They are referred to as a Bago(bay-go). It started out with a person or two saying that they wanted to get a WINNEBAGO and go around and visit all of the "widdas" on the site. It was then mentioned, it would then turn in to a "widow-bago!" So the name has since stuck; HARD AND FAST!!! But most just shortened it to bago for ease of typing I think. HA HA HA HA HA!!!! They can be a funny group! Of course I do my part when possible!

We did this because outside of going to a counselor there is NOTHING HERE locally for younger folks who are in this boat! We said NO MORE! She is 48 I think?She lost her husband to a woman who was drunk and driving, head on collision, both were killed instantly at the accident site. I turned 38 second of Sept. And well you know what happened to "us".

This is not a "normal" thing to be without a spouse this young. So there is not much being done to recognise it! We said It is time! If this keeps one person off of a drug and helps them "plow through" that is perfect and will be well worth the effort.

Nothing too fancy really just a time when we can get together and have some fun, and if someone has something to share then that is perfectly fine. And that also includes tears! But it is not meant to be a "therapy group" just a "social gathering" that is meant to be fun, and give folks a reason to get out of the house and LIVE! And most importantly: H O P E ! ! ! For the future that there is a life after the loss of a spouse, and maybe, another love.

Hey it has happened all over on the web-site I know of five or six right now who have connected with each other through there! HA HA HA!!!! If you think about it for a second it makes sense!

So if you happen to know anyone in the Omaha region who might like to know about this meeting, then have them give me a holler! Facebook is probably the fastest way to find me though!

Here is contact info Arron Smith, and you can find me in the Omaha network! I should be only one in the Omaha network especially with two R's!!! HA HA!! Oh and if this why they are looking for me, have them put something in about being a "wid" that way I know to take it seriously.

Our first dinner was great! Ten people! Five men five women! Oh and one Boy! Couldn't find a b-sitter for Adrian. HA HA!!! We have great hopes for this group being a good thing for folks.

I have sent a few of them over to this site when the subject of a memory quilt comes up. Or anything having to with sewing in general.

All a' ya' be careful out there! Arron

may God bless u and ur family...so sorry for ur loss..