I'm here with my wonderful gs babysitting for the weekend while dd is in RI with a friend, son is in Myrtle Beach with his dad, and I feel blue, all of a sudden. Why?

Do you ever feel like this? Is it age? A cloudy day? Subconscious? Am I missing something? Am I starting to feel sorry that I am single? Am I tired? Meno?

There's a twilight zone marathon, Drop Dead Diva marathon, next week I'm on vaca and watching gs while dd works, stuff to sew, and life in general is good.

Does this ever happen to you? How do you snap out of it? Do you ever figure out what it is to begin with?

It happens to me frequently, I call it menopause.

I think we all feel the "blues" at times thinking that life could be better. I just try to think of the positives instead of what I don't have. I'm single, but the older I get, the better I appreciate not having to clean up after someone else, doing what I want when I want, buy what I want when I want, etc. But, most of all, I have a couple limiting health issues, but nothing terminal - yet! Enjoy your family while appreciating they are healthy. Hugs!

It happens to most people. Let yourself feel your feelings and don't try to explain them. Feelings just are, until they start to intrude or impeed on your life. Then it is time to see your Dr. to see if something else is going on. But try not to compound the situation with guilt. Feel better.

Don't know why that 'blue' feeling comes over us so suddenly when everything is good, most likely it is because our hormones have a life of their own.

Got chocolate? That or a nice big cookie could give you a sugar lift that will make you feel better. How about some grandchild hugs and kisses? .

I thought I was fine until for some reason this mood interrupted me. I'm trying to overpower it and am sure it won't last much longer. It's just odd how it happens for no reason.

Probably is menopause. All else that I can't explain with my moods and all I blame on hormones, so why not this too? lol

It's very normal to have those feelings especially around a holiday. Find something fun to do with your GS instead of dwelling on the blues.

Go out side into the sun and feel its warmth. Take the baby to the park for a walk. Try something different that doesn't cost a thing.

Oh gosh, yes indeed. Sometimes can't explain it. Could be hormones, could be bad weather, could be nothing. I *try* to get some sunlight and move around some. It seems to help me. Years ago before Seasonal Affective Disease became popular, or at least known about, and there weren't light boxes to help, I found myself drawn to the lighting department at the Lowe's near my job. I would spend my lunch hour standing there in all that light and it made me feel better. As my grandma used to say "Go Know". Anyway, those blues could be anything but light and movement even walking, can't hurt.

and there is medication. menapause is not for sissies. I asked my dr. "how long does this last". he just patted me on the arm and said "for the rest of your life" what? we have periods, we have the kids and now this crap?! that ain't right I grumbled

Usually when I get the blues, I over-analyze trying to figure out why. Normally a good night's sleep will do the trick. Funny thing....when the world is crashing down, I'm the calmest, most confident, positive person in the family. I'm only blue when things are grand!!! I'm way past menopause, but that was the WORST!!!! My Dr told me the only way to describe meno was PMS x 10.

On those occasions I sing my favourite songs. Since I am usually by myself, I can belt out a tune at the top of my lungs and sometimes (don't tell anyone) I've been known to shake my booty along with the singing. Make sure the drapes are closed and it's not time for the mailman to come by. :lol:

This comment is great, and it certainly brought a smile to my face!!!

I know! Same here!

This is great! lol Although I'd probably just do it and not worry about the shades or the mailman. I bet my gs would be entertained!

Exactly! I'm 28 but hit surgical menopause 2 years ago. I never knew all the symptoms of menopause but when I found myself getting blue a lot, I went to my doctor. He told me that it's part of the "change" along with so many other symptoms I was having and that excercise will help end the blues.

My cure for the blues works for me every time - Go Shopping!

Happens all the time but concentrate on the things that make you happy...put on some music and like everything else in life, it passes.

lolol yes, that works too!

Love your avatar!

Oh, what a terrible thing for Dr. to say, lol. My Dr. told me that the strongest symptoms usually last anywhere from 5-13 years but then taper off. You may still experience some symptoms after that, but they're not as severe or as common.

Amen!! I used to think my grandmother was being silly when she'd wave a fan. I thought that menopause was when a woman felt a little overheated, like a humid August day! Ha!! My menopause was brought about by surgery so my body didn't have time to build up to it. Dr. told me it was like driving my body over the menopause cliff and throwing it into the ravine of shock...so gentle was he, lol! He also told me to expect a lot of the same symptoms as pregnancy...without the ending. Not a good thing to tell a 26 year old woman who's just lost her chance to have more children but I've moved past and can see it was for the best...now if I can only get past all of these hot flashes! :lol:

Of course, its normal to feel this way - I say it is all of the above - just acknowledge it then it will pass. Pretty soon you won't feel so blah...

Meds! They work and help us get through it all. Ask your doctor. No reason to have to deal with it. It is very normal.

Exactly...well said

It could be depression. Perhaps you should see a doctor. I'm on "happy pills"; "they make my sun shine". They have made a world of difference. I used to be like you; not happy for no reason at all, crying for no reason, felt like crawling in a hole and pulling it in with me.

If it happens more often, I would suggest you seek help.

You know I think your right, I decided to take myself off the happy pills, thinking everything is just in my head and I'm really not depressed, since I've quit taking them, I've notice I cry a lot for no reason at all, and I'm a bit cranky with the hubby, guess I better call the Dr. and tell her to refill my meds.....I was just trying to get off all meds, including pain pills for lower back pain..Since I've been getting injections in my back, I don't need pain pills, but I think I need my Happy Pills back...LOL

glad i'm not the only one with menopause blues. and i started menopause at 38. i agree with all the other ladies. light, exercise, chocolate did i say chocolate yep, doesn't hurt to here it twice. and the power of positive thinking. and good friends and family. have a happier day.

It happens to all of us at times in our lives.

Thanks, everyone, I'm better now. When there isn't a reason I try to ignore it but sometimes I just give in to being teary for a bit. Sometimes just looking at pictures and things that make me smile do the trick.

AND...my grandson crawled two steps forward! He then took four back, but he gets it! :) :) :) Can't beat that for therapy!

I get these on occasion. Mostly because I don't like being so old but yet I am thankful I am still here. I miss the kids and grandkids and that is usually when it hits. Thank goodness it does not usually last long and I hope the same for you. Just find something to do and no dwell on the negative.

I have...but as long as it isn't long lasting, I don't really worry too much about it...usually after a few days, something/someone will help and I won't feel so blue anymore. It can be easy to feel sorry for ourselves sometimes...but it can feel empowering to find ways to get through the tough times...and usually our experiences of getting through will help the next time. Life can be overwhelming sometimes...and we may think there is no reason at all...but it usually is something. Try to be really gentle with yourself, take naps, have a special treat, buy something frivilous, go for a walk, play with a child...something will help the blues go away.

Yes! For a few days in fact. Last week was really bad, for no reason that I could see. My son called one evening and asked me something and I started crying (for no reason). I was so emotional for a few days, so blue.

Mental-pause is quite the roller coaster ride! As a matter of fact, it is like riding the coaster with a full bladder, a loose fitting wig, and a bra that is too tight.
And, that's a good day. :shock:

DH was complaining that I was being awful "moody" a while back...I told him "just wait till I go through menopause"...he said he was going to send me to my mom's - how long does it last he asked LOL!!!!

Love that description!

Well, I occasionally get the blues. Had them at lot when I lived up north and had to go thru those long dreary winters and no sun.Since being in FL. much better, but notice certain times set it off. For some reason the 18th of any month (my mom died June 18th, 2001)can bother me, Mothers Day because she is not here or just something being said. Also, going thru a lot of crap with son/grandson. Ex girlfriend trying to take grandson from son. So depressing. Dads have no rights.But, I usually am pretty happy. It's just natural to get the blues now and then.

Baskin Robbins, Dairy Queen, Coldstone.....etc.

I'm with you but I notice lately I seem to cry an awful lot :(
Jumpin off the bridge looks good to me but with my luck I'd live and be a parapeligic but with no brain damage, just more suffering pfffffffffffffftt I keep sayin I'll snap out of it sooner or later

AMAN SISTER IT SURE DOES A LOT EVEN THOUGH ITS HAS ONLY ONE WORD MENAPAUSE.PEOPLE REALLY DON'T KNOW WHAT ALL IT CAN EFFECT ON A WOMAN BUT WHEN YOU GET THERE AT MENAPAUSE AGE YOU'LL SURE FIND OUT.