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Pinkrose4664 06-22-2011 11:50 AM

I am giving my first bridal shower. I am making those snap bags as a party favor. I am thinking of putting something inside. but my first question is, does the date on the favor represent the wedding date or that of the shower and the second is, if I am not giving a sit down lunch, when is it right to give the favor bags out?

Thanks you guys

quiltinghere 06-22-2011 11:53 AM

Not sure - but I would say the shower date if it's shower related...like just the bride's name on it. Wedding date if it has both bride and groom.....but I could be wrong.

As far as when to pass them out....I've never been to a shower where we didn't sit down the entire time - before the meal, during the meal, while opening gifts, and even afterwards to visit, etc. Do your guest stand the whole time?

Tallulah 06-22-2011 11:57 AM

Most of the bridal showers in my area aren't sit down luncheons. We watch the bride open gifts. Sometimes we play a game or two first. Then we have nice finger foods, cake, and punch for refreshments. I would give out the favors at the end.

quiltsRfun 06-22-2011 12:35 PM


Originally Posted by Tallulah
Most of the bridal showers in my area aren't sit down luncheons. We watch the bride open gifts. Sometimes we play a game or two first. Then we have nice finger foods, cake, and punch for refreshments. I would give out the favors at the end.

Same here. You could put them in a bowl or basket by the refreshments.

bakermom 06-22-2011 12:37 PM

I did purse sized tissue holders for a shower. Placed one at each place at the table.

BellaBoo 06-22-2011 12:37 PM

The very formal and over the top as far as the venue bridal showers I have been to, there were no party favor gifts at these. Dull and boring affairs but excellent food. The fun bridal showers had cute little party favors for the guests. I would suggest putting the bags in a pretty basket and remind everyone to take one before leaving.

bearisgray 06-22-2011 12:38 PM

I think it depends on the time, place, and crowd.

I think I would leave the date off the favors - I prefer most things undated - but that's just me

Maybe you could have them on the lunch table and each guest could pick it up then?

Or hand them out during the first game? (If you play games at the shower)

If they are different colors, the guests could play "the dice game" to select one - at the end, if anyone has more than one, she can keep the one she likes best, and put the rest "back in the pot" for the ones that didn't get one.

redquilter 06-22-2011 12:40 PM

The date should reflect that of the bridal shower, but I, personally, don't care for "dated" items. I think you can eliminate that. I would put the favors in a nice basket and remind each guest as they are leaving to take one.

eastermarie 06-22-2011 12:42 PM

You need to put the shower date. Since it isn't a sit down lunch, then provide a decorative container near the doorway and remind your guests to pick up their favor as they leave. You could even tell the guests right before the bride starts opening her gifts, that you have provided each of them a take home favor that they may pick up by the door (or where ever you have put them) on their way out.

Tink's Mom 06-22-2011 01:12 PM

Formal shower...at a hall or such... put next to place setting...

Informal...at a home...place in a big bowl or on a nice tray near the exit door. Place a reminder note on the door jamb.

Carol's Quilts 06-22-2011 01:27 PM

The bride would probably not even remember the date of the shower, other things, yes, but not the date. So I wouldn't bother with that.

As others have said, a decorative bowl at the exit door would work just fine, or you could do a pretty display on the refreshment table or buffet.

Pinkrose4664 06-22-2011 01:51 PM

Thanks everyone! Wow, what a great group you are. Allways there to help.

I am making cookies that are hearts and have the couples intials in the middle. I was going to put them in a little plastic bag and put them in the favor bag. I was thinking of putting the couples names on a little tag with a date to close the bag. And didn't know if it should be the shower date or the wedding date.

No, people don't stand, we sit and play games and have cake. I am just not serving a meal, I don't have a house big enough.

I like the idea of putting them in a basket by the door. Thank you for all your help ladies.

Anna



Originally Posted by redquilter
The date should reflect that of the bridal shower, but I, personally, don't care for "dated" items. I think you can eliminate that. I would put the favors in a nice basket and remind each guest as they are leaving to take one.


bearisgray 06-22-2011 04:24 PM

I was thinking you were making cloth bags - if you are decorating cookies or a plastic bag, the date of the shower would be fine.

watterstide 06-22-2011 04:31 PM

i printed out the date on clear sticky labels on my computer. used a fancy font.. then put them on little tags,the tags were about an inch in length.

(you can get them at any office supply store,they come in different sizes/amount and shapes)

i took off the yucky string that came on them, and used a pretty colored hand EMB thread..

hannajo 06-22-2011 05:04 PM

Just a word of caution if you decide to leave the favors in a basket for the women to take as they leave. I've had it happen to me more than once where people were supposed to take favors, but just didn't notice them or didn't notice the sign directing them to take them. Then I got left with a whole bunch of untaken favors. If you have people helping you host, it might be good for that to be someone's responsibility to "push the favors."

Just make sure the people take them! And have fun with your shower :)

SharBear 06-22-2011 05:11 PM

As the guests leave the Bride should be the last one that speaks to them, thanking them for coming, etc. - recommend that you have them near her and have her distribute as guests come to say thier good byes to her. As the hostess for the shower you should stick close to the bride and you can hand them to her for her to give out as people leave.

that way, you aren't left with a bunch and everyone has the opportunity to speak with the guest of honor. Odds are that people will leave in cluster groups - if you and the bride are near the doorway you'll get many of them taken care of at the same time.

Pinkrose4664 06-22-2011 05:47 PM

Oh I am, I am making little cloth bags, the cookies will go inside.


Originally Posted by bearisgray
I was thinking you were making cloth bags - if you are decorating cookies or a plastic bag, the date of the shower would be fine.


montanajan 06-23-2011 12:49 PM

I've done tea parties for friends. I give party favors - last year it was home-made Chai Tea in clear bags w/ recipe tied w/ ribbon at top of bag. I place the favors in a large basket & remind guests to take one as they leave. I like to greet them @ door as they arrive, & be at door as they leave as well, so often hand favor to them at that time.

Sounds like it will be a nice gesture, with or without date on the bag.


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