Four words that can change your life.
 

Instead of making excuses, feeling being put on the spot, being roped into something, feeling like a doormat, always compromising, learn to say these four words:

I don't want to.

It's super hard to say them the first few times but boy does it feel good! And it's a shuter upper for any comeback. Practice on your kids first if you feel you can't get the nerve to say it to others just yet. :o

You're right! I tried saying this about a year ago and it worked. Whenever necessary, I say it again and again. I've gained a lot more personal time to do what I want to do!

It only takes one word ............... NO!

You shouldn't feel you have to give any reasons for your decisions.

Aquot, that I came across a few years ago, on this matter ...
"Saying no, is saying yes to yourself!"

I only wish I knew who to give credit to these empowering words.

It works when girls start dating, too! LOL!

I have a book "When I Say No, I Feel Guilty". I could never say NO to anything someone wanted me to do and if I did, I worried myself silly about why I said NO. My doctor told me to read this book to help with the guilt feelings. I still haven't conquered the guilt completely but I am able to say NO more often now.

One could use only one word as well--No! But it sounds harsh doesn't it. I have learned, though, to say no, but then I soften it with giving a very brief reason why I can't any more.

hmmm, does that work better than saying "I can't"? I'll have to try that the next time I really can't do something!

We should not let others determine our feeling. Remember you are in control of your feelings. Saying NO is all the answer needed.

I can say No very easley! I found a sign for my sewing roonm it says
I don't want to
I don't have to
you can't make me
I'M RETIRED!

Words I now live by! LOL

My girlfriend says "I'm not so sure that would work for me"...or some variation. I think it's a most charming way to turn down even the most aggressive and annoying.