Using a quilt to make a room like home
 

My husband recently had to be moved into "Assisted Living." My daughters and I tried to make his room "like home." I took the quilt that was our bedspread and placed it on his bed. It really helped to have this among other familiar things.

So good of you to think of this. Quilts seem to always bring comfort.

Good thinking and a sign of selfless love!

I think the familiar home feel really helps in these situations. We did the same time when my MIL had to go into assisted living. I'm sure the quilt and other familiar objects bring comfort, and help with "memory jogging" also. What a thoughtful thing to do.

I imagine you will miss having your husband at home, and I wish you much peace and comfort in this decision. It sounds like you are a very caring spouse and I know he will be okay in his new "home' with the familiar quilt that will remind him of you and all the past good years. Blessings for you both.

Jan in VA

I'm sure your quilt will bring him a lot of comfort and good memories. That is such a difficult decision to make. It is hard to be without one's soul mate.

when you can't be home, it's the next best thing

Just make sur eit is marked with his name

Went with my friend to see her mother who had just moved to assisted living. We also took a few things that made it seem a little more home. Couple of her favorite magazines and also a quilt one of her granddaughters made for her. She had never had a quilt until the granddaughter made her a lap quilt 5 years ago. It was so soft and was made with a piece of clothing from all the family. One of her grandsons set her up so she could "Skype" everyone. he printed simple instructions for her to operate her laptop. it was stolen the first day but they found it immediately, in a supervisor's office (GPS). Grandson got in touch with director and police officer and arrested and fired supervisor. Point is this family loves her so much they try to think of everything to make her life easier and let her know that just because she isn't living in that big house, they are still there for her. And she knows it!

Thank you for all the comments about the quilt when we moved my husband to Assisted Living. It was the most painful decision I ever had to make. Although I visit him every day, I miss having him with me more than I can say. We will be married 60 years in June! I really cherish the memories!

Bless your heart, Bebe. I questioned my hard decisions like this also, but you are doing all of the right things. You are a caring, loving person. Quilts bring enormous comfort, as do familiar objects. You and your husband are in our prayers today.

That is a difficult time for you. So glad you were able to share part of home with him in his transition.

I am glad you were able to make him more comfortable. Best wishes to you and your family.

I can only imagine how hard that decision was for you and your family. When my sister moved Dad to an assisted living facility a couple of years ago, she asked him what he wanted in his room. He wanted a blanket he remembered and pictures of the two wonderful women he married (my mother and stepmom). Having a few things he knew and could remember helped him settle in so quickly. Please know that others are thinking of you.

My dad went Ito a home about a year ago. I gave him two quilts for his bed. The last one he really liked as it goes from the floor to the floor. He really likes it as he turns over he still had enough had quilt to cover this back. I also found a picture frame that took all sizes of pictures. So I put their wedding picture in it, a picture of his brothers and sister a picture of us girls. He really liked it. He has just lost his last 3 siblings .

But he still tells us every time we visit that he wants to go home and be with my mom. They will be married 63 years this fall. I don't think he will ever get over not being at home. It is hard on all of us. I wish some days he didn't have as much of his memory he has. Love him to death. Life is not fair to our seniors!

Quilts from our homes are the best and can also make us feel like we are home again. Just remember to mark the quilt, things go missing all the time in assistance living. (Not always on purpose) I know the quilt will make him and you feel close while he is there.

Be sure to label it prominetly with his name. Sadly, nice quilts are frequently 'borrowed' in alternate living residences.

That was a very thoughtful, thing to do. I don't know how long he will be there, but if it is for a while, may I suggest a wreath that goes with the season on the door. We had a nurse who was a Alzheimer expert suggest that for our Mom. It helps them know what season of the year it is. They often don't get outside and get the clues.

What a great idea.....It is important to make a person feel at home when they cannot be there any longer...It helps make them feel more secure...

actually, Quilt is not a cover for the Bed, it has many, many things, a gift , memory, timeless treasures, loving and sharing happiness and hope, wisdom and faith, serene serenity, mostly Blessing!

It is so sad that we have to move our loved ones out of our home to place that is suppose to benefit them. But then you have some idiot steal their possessions. To me, that is the same as that person walking into my home and just taking what they want.
We are trying very hard to keep Daddy home. He is 90 and has Alzheimer's. It is very hard on Mom. I left my job, in part, to assist her with traveling to doctor appointments or to just sit with him so she can get out for a few hours. I hope your husband finds joy in your visits and understands that this was not an easy decision for you. Bless your heart, sweetie.

Definitely helps! I brought one to the hospital when my DH was in there for several weeks and diagnosed with cancer. Just to have something from home, and nothing else was good!