pamkasperi

For a few months now I've come and posted. I've had a few laughs; made a few people laugh; asked for help; have given help; looked at pictures and posted pictures.

Last night and this morning took the cake.

Let me say - I'm a whiner...I'm impatient....I want the easy way...I don't like rules and directions and I want it fast - all of this with my sewing and quilting ONLY. In my other life - I'm methodical; patient; don't break the rules; follow advice; take it slow so its done right and am just a plain out right perfectionist!

Why so different? I've seen posts saying "hey newbies were here for you want a mentor?"...I've never taken anyone up on that because even my own mother gave up on teaching me to sew because I didn't take my time and follow the RULES...I just wanted to run with it and finish it as quick as I could so I could see it done; smile at myself and move on to the next idea; project; bolt of fabric.

So last night I posted my "Pain in the Butt Quilt for Breast Cancer" which Pam M (milp04) lovingly renamed Pain in the Butt for Boobs. Everything went wrong on this quilt start to finish. I got up this morning and see post after post - all lovingly telling me - your quilt is uh well lets just say "uh....we know what you did wrong do you?" (ok not really everyone was lovely, nice and sweet but I can read between the lines :lol: )

But my feelings were NOT hurt; I didn't feel chastized I didn't even feel like I had been offerred some praise I had not deserved. What I felt was the loving care of a group that knew "hum....her quilt kinda stinks...she messed up in every way possible...we can't tell her it looks good but maybe we can slow her down and make her take in some good advice".

What I wanted was "looks great....oh no good job...love it...pretty etc...." what I got was a boat load of great suggestions; constructive critisim; helpful hints and smiles - lots of smiles - yours and mine cuz I made someone laugh enough there husband came to see what was going on!

So thank you...Quilters are the best - you have to be to have patience to read my posts; look at my pictures and struggle through all the obvious mistakes and wonky quilts I posts!

So remember when reading and dealing with my quilts...treat me like one of your kids - you know they bring home the arts and craft project and you can't say it looks great and I love it because it doesn't- so you say - now that was an interesting choice of colors...looks like you worked hard on it. I figure if I'm going to quilt like a 10 year old it is the least I deserve!! :lol: :lol: Seriously - the helpful hints and suggestions have to keep coming or I'll never grow up - remember Thursday I was FMQ'ing like a kindergartner and I have now graduated to 1st grade...Ya'll have a long way to go with me!

Bottom line - this is a great place with a great group of people - men and women. You tell it like it is; you praise; you pray; you help; you laugh and you make people laugh - so on this wonderfully warm and humid morning know that someone in Corpus Christi is happy to have you as her cyber pal.

jenny Line

We are glad to have you. Welcome!

Jen:)

maryb119

This is a great group of people on the board.

terri bb

i read that post last nite, the brown little quilt? you had me in stitches with your story! you should be a writer!! at the very least a comedian! the people here are absolutely fantastic! i spend less time here now as im super busy and i need to try and keep up with everyone a bit more, but this is the friendliest site i have ever come across and you can feel the love...quilters are a special breed of people for sure! keep the posts and pics coming!!! :)

Jan in VA

Yours is the best post I've ever read on QB!
The best attitude.
The best perspective.
The best humor.
The best joie de vivre.
The best self acknowledgement.
The best self deprecating.
The least self indulgent.
The least offended.
The least demanding.
And the least well made quilt.......oh, wait, that's not very nice of me, LOL! BUT!!!! I have a suggestion.....have you ever visited Ami Simms site and seen her contest of the late 1990s? Check it out, you're in good company, but probably wouldn't win! LOL! http://www.amisimms.com/worquilworco.html

Hugs, really!

Jan in VA

nativetexan

Ah! had my honeymoon (such as it was) in Corpus Christi!! in November!!
welcome from Colorado (now).

MadQuilter

OK gotta go look for wonky boobs now.

SherrieDLux

Pam, I know exactly how you feel, for over a year I was my teachers "Problem Child" if I could do anything wrong, she would say "Rip it out, do it over" I refused, I fought her tooth and nail until one day I did it just like she said...she looked at my work, held it up to the class and said "Now isn't this beautiful" with that I started to gain knowledge from the older lady and so thankful I did, I now can say I am mostly proud to show my work, I'm not great at it, but on a fast horse it still looks pretty good to me. The joy is in doing something you are truly proud of and we all need teachers who sometimes tell us what we don't want to hear, but they are doing what they know best...listen..you won't be disappointed I'm sure.

darlin121

ROFLOL Read the other post as well. What a great self depreciating humor you have. Thanks, I like you too.

pamkasperi

Thanks Jan! I haven't been to the site but I'm going in a second to see.

People tell me all the time I am funny but I don't see it so sometimes I wonder if they are secretly or publically laughing AT me. So I read your post to my husband and he said "no she is right - what is funny is your self deprecating in a really funny way that makes other people feel good!" So I went and looked up "self-deprecating" (I wasn't telling him I didn't know exactly what it meant) and found out that it means - or at least one definition is to "under-value yourself"...so I'm thinking well I don't under-value ME....I value me alot - I value all my lack's! So Hubby says - well everyone else seems to value your "lack's" too - see you made them laugh!