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Thread: A quilt police officer in the making *sigh*

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    Super Member lovingmama's Avatar
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    Here is what I do, I ask people how many different they can find to make the sum of 10. (5+5, 4+6 etc.)

    Than I ask them, which one is right, which one is wrong?

    More than once, there are different ways of doing things, with the same good result. So it comes down to what you prefer.

    Sorry, but there will be always someone in our lives who knows it all and especially better.

    Look at her as you would at a child, still needs to learn a lot.

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    I generally just say "how nice for you" and go on with my happy life.

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    my hubby has his moments that he feels the need to enforce his 'post'...he's been known to tell me...well i hope you don't plan on leaving that like that...you need to fix that. ;) i love that he is supportive, once in a while though....he could be a little less critical.
    in the sewing group i used to go to we had one person who thought all of us should do everything (her-way)...one time i was asked to teach a technique and she showed up with a totally different technique and ran around the room (behind me) taking fabric right out of peoples hands and telling them to '''do it this way''' well, turned out...her way...did not work for ANY ONE in the group and when 1/2 a dozen women finally stood up and said....this does NOT WORK! PLEASE WILL YOU JUST LET OUR 'TEACHER (me) 'SHOW US HOW SHE DOES IT...THAT'S WHAT WE WANTED TO LEARN....boy was she '''put-out'''but we all still like her. that night changed alot of things for us as a group. and many of the ladies started contacting me privately and coming to visit when they wanted to figure out how to do something...the whole meeting changed direction at that point and they stopped asking individuals to do 'classes' at the meetings which i think is sad....all because of one person's 'mighter than though attitude'

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    When my father was alive, he gave me the best advice ever(I just need to remember to do it all the time)....He said.."JUST SMILE AND NOD"!

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    More power to her for trying to help people but............. When I first started quilting I went to a night class, I was up in Scotland at that time, and this Scottish Lady was so emphatic as the way things were done that she took the fun out of quilting, so much so she frightened me out of quilting until I found a friendly Forum and a lovely bunch of quilters who were so generous with their time and experience. I am now a quilting addict and I love my hobby but it could so easily have turned out differently just by the first experience with that teacher. It's a shame someone could not be brave enough and give her some friendly advice.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Margie
    When my father was alive, he gave me the best advice ever(I just need to remember to do it all the time)....He said.."JUST SMILE AND NOD"!
    I learned that "Smile and Be polite" works best for me.

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    The exact same thing happened to me. I just kind of ignored it, even though I was irritated. After a couple more years, though, my friend had more quilting experiences and took classes with different people and came to realize on her own that there are lots of ways to do things. She stopped being the quilting police and we each just do things the way we like. I would give your friend a little time.

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    Tell your friend, "You should take a few more lessons. Then you will begin to understand there is no one way to do it--just many ways to choose your favorite from." Now--say that over a few times to yourself so you'll be ready with it next time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jan in VA
    Quote Originally Posted by joan_quilts
    When I am teaching people how to quilt, I tell them they have to make sure they are cutting accuaratley, have to know the 1/4 inch seam rule, and the rest is preference. I can show them short cuts, but as long as you are happy with your work, that is what matters.
    Now that's a teacher. :D

    For the 'new' quilt police, next time she does this, lean back a smidge, look her straight in the eye, slightly raise your eyebrows, do not break contact, do not speak first, wait her out, see what she does.
    I'm betting she will find that quite uncomfortable and hopefully make the connection that HER behavior is making you uncomfortable as well.
    Nothing is more ridiculous or annoying than a newly taught proselytizer.

    Jan in VA
    "poselytizer"! I love that word! I have no idea what it means, but I like it (now I have to go look it up :-) See how much you learn on this board!) I also love this piece of advice. It can be applied to almost any situation and I will definitely keep it in mind next time anyone thinks that they are no longer teachable because they already know everything.
    Have you introduced her to this board? She will quickly find out that a) there are many, many ways to achieve quilting results and b) there are thousands of women on this board who have tried most of those ways and few will say there is one 'right' way to do it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LastGrandma
    Quote Originally Posted by Margie
    When my father was alive, he gave me the best advice ever(I just need to remember to do it all the time)....He said.."JUST SMILE AND NOD"!
    I learned that "Smile and Be polite" works best for me.
    I admire you! After a few irritating coments from the quilt police, I go with "Cut and smile" or "Cut and run."

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