Thread: What response are you really looking for?

Another spin off - from this thread -

Food For Thought For Quilters on This Board

If you post something like - "my borders are really wavy" - "I can't get my points to match" - "I turned a block wrong - do you think anyone will notice?"

What response do you really want?

"It's fine - think of it as a design choice."
"No one is perfect . . . "
"No one will notice . . . "
etc.

The Original Poster is "Someone" - and noticed - - -

OR

Suggestions that would improve/correct the situation?

I think most people that ask the questions "know" that a do-over is probably the best choice, even if they are dreading the idea or unsewing and resewing.

I would always hope for an honest response, whatever the question. I think the worst case scenario is someone thinking, 'Gosh, that just looks awful', and posting, 'Great job!' or 'Don't worry about it; no one else will notice'. But I hope and believe we are more honest than that!

Some of us quilt in isolation and don't have quilting friends to talk with about things associated with quilting. As a result, this forum provides a place to find out if something is a problem or not, if others have had the problem and what is the best thing to do about it. Everything doesn't have to be taken out and done over. Sometimes it is the only solution and ideas about techniques and methods is helpful.

I agree with PaperPrincess....I would be looking for suggestions for a fix that perhaps I had not though of yet. I might couch my response to the effect 'you could leave it but you would always know it's there' kind comment prior to any suggestion I might have. Depends on how the OP poses the question.

Ditto here!! If I don't know of a fix, sometimes I'll post anxious to see other members suggestions.

Originally Posted by NJ Quilter

I agree with PaperPrincess....I would be looking for suggestions for a fix that perhaps I had not though of yet. I might couch my response to the effect 'you could leave it but you would always know it's there' kind comment prior to any suggestion I might have. Depends on how the OP poses the question.

Speaking for myself, if I ask it's because I don't know if there may be a fix for my mistake. I definitely don't want people to not post their honest opinion & if that's that I need to rip everything out & start from scratch then fine, but I've found that's not always necessary. And just because re-sewing may result in a more perfect result, I sometimes would rather find an "okay" fix and not spend half my quilting time unsewing. I truly believe the best way to improve is to make more quilts, not practice my seam ripping skills.