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Thank you all so much for the suggestions!!! I believe telling her I am making another bag and then, my daughter is waiting for the pattern, would work well. Jeanne S has a very good point, "if they have the nerve to ask to borrow, we can have the nerve to politely decline!"
Could you make a copy of your tote bag pattern. And give it to her
Maybe this is just me, but why even lie to this person? Making up some type of excuse just to pretend to be polite, really rubs me the wrong way.Originally Posted by Maggie_Sue
First of all, I don't believe that it violates copyright in any way to loan a pattern to a friend, unless you know or strongly suspect that she will be copying the pattern.
Is your concern that this lady won't return the pattern? Or that she will copy it? Or just that you don't want to share what you have purchased with someone who is clearly wanting a freebie? Any of these are legitimate concerns, but you need to be clear with yourself about what is your cause for concern.
I would not lie, not make excuses, just tell her that you don't loan patterns because (you are afraid of not getting them back; you do not want them copied because of copyright concerns; you paid for it with good money and you expect others should do the same). Pick your response and stick to it. It is not something to be ashamed of, but something that is true and worth protecting.
I fully agree with dunster on this. IMO honesty is always best on the long run, don't be tempted to "create" excuses!
If I asked....I would rather hear what the name of pattern is and where it can be purchased at.
I would feel like she's pleased with my comment of nice bag but perferred not to let go of her pattern.
take plenty of pic of family & friends, keep tabs on loved ones but make time for yourself !
It is best to be honest as to why you don't want her to have the pattern as further down the track you risk being caught out in a lie
i don't see any reason to make up a reason you "can't" lend her the pattern.
just say no.
politely, but firmly.
if she presses for a reason tell her the truth.
you don't want to.
nothing in the world wrong with that.
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I agree, that the "I am making another one and then my daughter has dibs on the pattern next" is the appropriate answer. I would certainly tell her the name of the pattern and where she might buy her own. I have told my friends that I NEVER loan out my Bargello books.
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Years ago I loaned a pattern to a friend. She moved out of state taking pattern with her, and I never heard from her again. Don't loan if it's a pattern you may use again.
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