Thread: What would you do if

I personally would decide if I am really going to use the pattern again. If so, I would say, "I plan to use it again, but if you'd like to buy it from me in the spring (or whatever time frame you think i might be tired of it/realize I won't makeanother tote of that pattern) then I can sell it you if you're still interested." She might say okay and doso, might forget about it. Either way, you've not said no, youve bought yourself some time, and you just might be willing to sell it at a later date. And no hard feelings, no lies, no more being nagged if she hears "not now".

Sorry, I don't lend patterns or sewing supplies. Would be what I would say. I would not offer any other explanation or excuse. Them there's the facts.

I only lend what I can afford to lose or no longer need.

I have loaned patterns - some were gone for good, others were returned with no problems. For me, I would say that I was planning to make another item and give her the information about the pattern so she could either find it on her own or not. Sometimes I will ask someone where they got the pattern or the name and they act like I am going to make the identical thing. Chances are, I won't even make it, I like to know where other people shop for such interesting items.
Once on the QB I asked a person where she got an embroidery design for a major university, her response was very defensive saying she couldn't send the design to me. I didn't want the one she had I was hoping to find another university and had not been able to locate any so thought she had an avenue that I was not aware.

So don't get super defensive, it can create hard feelings, and you don't want to do that.

Wide variety of answers here! Made me think of things I had not even considered before. What I have said when some one has asked to borrow a pattern is that I didn't really use a pattern. I usually tweek or change something, or make my own, so them using the "pattern" won't get them the same quilt or wall hanging I made.