What's wrong with me?!!!!
05-15-2007, 01:26 PM
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Ah, there's nothing wrong with you. Sounds like you have so much on your mind and so much stress to deal with that its affecting your desire to sew.
Now if it were me, I'd be getting on some video game where I could blow stuff up and imagine that every little thing I can destroy is something that is bugging me. But I'm guessing XBox isn't your cup of tea. Chocolate helps to...I prefer to invest in a little bag of Ghirardelli chocolates (with the caramel centers) rather than a cheap Hershey's bar.
Now if it were me, I'd be getting on some video game where I could blow stuff up and imagine that every little thing I can destroy is something that is bugging me. But I'm guessing XBox isn't your cup of tea. Chocolate helps to...I prefer to invest in a little bag of Ghirardelli chocolates (with the caramel centers) rather than a cheap Hershey's bar.
05-15-2007, 03:00 PM
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Girrrrrrl, pleeeze. there is definitely nothing wrong with you. a person would have to be heartless to not get a case of the blues in your situation.
So! Your first order of business is to stop kicking yourself for being normal. feeling guilty and "wrong" about feeling bad is only going to make you feel worse. it's a vicious circle.
i get serious bouts of depression at least a few times a year. i take my daily dose of what a friend of mine calls "pretty pills", but it isn't always enough. i've developed a system that i'll admit is pretty wierd but it works for me most of the time.
i assess the situation. if i have a logical reason for being depressed, i give it a little thought then "allow" myself a specific amount of time to wallow, whine, moan, and lay around all i want. this almost always includes making mental or actual lists of all the things i think i should be doing or really should be doing. when i've "spent my allowance" i force myself to pick something from the list and just do it. doesn't matter if i do it quickly, if i do it well, or if i enjoy doing it. i just drag myself kicking and screaming into the task. (and the work i get paid to do doesn't count. it has to be something in my personal life.) for me, being able to accomplish even one little thing again is like breaking out of prison and sets me free to get back to the rest of it.
(if i don't have a logical reason i'm allowed no more than 1.5 more days.)
you have ongoing things to cope with. i'd say ... hmmm ... allow yourself another specific number of days to not do nuthin' if'n ya don't wants to. then pick something. like the apron. or a little blankie for your granddaughter's hospital stay. when you've done the first little something, and if you still need it, give yourself a certain number of minutes each day to just sit still and be blah. set the timer. but each day, you require yourself to work on something from your list for at least a little while. you may start feeling productive again, which will make you feel a little better, which will inspire you to do more. a much better circle to be running in.
i can't promise it'll work. just something to consider and maybe try.
and - of course - stick with us. like everybody else has said, we're here for you. we understand. and we loves ya whether you're as busy as a bee or have taken root to the couch.
;-)
So! Your first order of business is to stop kicking yourself for being normal. feeling guilty and "wrong" about feeling bad is only going to make you feel worse. it's a vicious circle.
i get serious bouts of depression at least a few times a year. i take my daily dose of what a friend of mine calls "pretty pills", but it isn't always enough. i've developed a system that i'll admit is pretty wierd but it works for me most of the time.
i assess the situation. if i have a logical reason for being depressed, i give it a little thought then "allow" myself a specific amount of time to wallow, whine, moan, and lay around all i want. this almost always includes making mental or actual lists of all the things i think i should be doing or really should be doing. when i've "spent my allowance" i force myself to pick something from the list and just do it. doesn't matter if i do it quickly, if i do it well, or if i enjoy doing it. i just drag myself kicking and screaming into the task. (and the work i get paid to do doesn't count. it has to be something in my personal life.) for me, being able to accomplish even one little thing again is like breaking out of prison and sets me free to get back to the rest of it.
(if i don't have a logical reason i'm allowed no more than 1.5 more days.)
you have ongoing things to cope with. i'd say ... hmmm ... allow yourself another specific number of days to not do nuthin' if'n ya don't wants to. then pick something. like the apron. or a little blankie for your granddaughter's hospital stay. when you've done the first little something, and if you still need it, give yourself a certain number of minutes each day to just sit still and be blah. set the timer. but each day, you require yourself to work on something from your list for at least a little while. you may start feeling productive again, which will make you feel a little better, which will inspire you to do more. a much better circle to be running in.
i can't promise it'll work. just something to consider and maybe try.
and - of course - stick with us. like everybody else has said, we're here for you. we understand. and we loves ya whether you're as busy as a bee or have taken root to the couch.
;-)
05-15-2007, 03:41 PM
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You sound stressed but it will pass..... take a week or so off from your sewing and do other things.... I know the feeling..... my 14 year old granddaughter in australia has been told she has multiple sclerosis... that was about 6/7 months ago... she has had 2 relapses recently... has been put on steroids and if that doesn't work she is to have a plasma exchange.... I could cry but that won't help her.... sent her a nice get well card.. about all I can do as I don't fly.... so I am feeling like you at the moment, so decided to get on to the computer.... it is my company, husband is out fishing.... he does that often.... his way of relaxing I suppose.... I am going out to a stitch and chat afternoon so that will help. Take care of your self..... your granddaughter will be OK.... and you must be OK too for when she comes home.... I love the idea of dancing around the room to music, with a broom.... have done that years ago when I couldn't get out of the house and it works !!! What fun, believe it or not. I just love music so that helped. Didn't mean to "write a book". Love to hear how you are getting on and I am sure others will want to hear too.
05-15-2007, 03:54 PM
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well, FVG... I use to play video games..if I had a xbox I probably wouldn't be biting my nails..maybe I'll just stand under the shower and let out a war cry...I'll warn those at home first, ..don't want to be in the local paper the next day!!!
05-15-2007, 04:03 PM
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I'm in Ky....my grandaughter in KS......I won't be able to get out to see her until the end of June....maybe...but I need to stop feeling sorry about myself, your grandaughter, Joy is so much further away..I will pray for her and your family. It is difficult, isn't it....crying doesn't help anyone but yourself...and I'm going to have a good one...in the shower...cause sometimes you just gotta take care of yourself...ask Sandra, she'll agree!!!
05-15-2007, 04:27 PM
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Daughter and two grand daughters are in Perth.... I didn't want them to go and she has since had a marriage breakup... the other grand daughter has a growth problem... I won't go into that.... that is life I suppose... nice to get a reply.... thank you for that.
05-15-2007, 09:43 PM
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Hi Catherine! I get in that "no-sew" zone sometimes too. Was actually in one since my roadtrip last month, until tonight! Last week I read about "Project Hokie Hope" (http://blog.myspace.com/hokie_hope), and since I know a Virginia Tech alumnus, I thought that I would like to make a block to send, but just couldn't get there. But tonight, I went to my quilt class, and actually drafted a block and made TWO of them! WOOHOOOO!!! I'm not sure if it was doing something to give away or what, but I'm just glad to be able to work again.
I also sometimes do something similar to what Patrice said - I have a "Pity Pot" timer. Set it for an hour a week (or whatever) & hit the button whenever I need to feel sorry for myself, stop it when I'm done. If it runs out before the week's over, oh well, no more Pity Pot sitting 'til next week! Usually I don't need the whole amount of time either. It's just the thought that I can allow myself the time to do it maybe. Who knows? Not me! lol
I also believe that we need to watch those chick flicks that make us cry too. Nothing like chocolate & a good cry when you need one - and if you're watching one of those movies, you don't have to hide in the shower either. :wink:
In any case, try to relax a bit, take it easy on yourself. When you're ready, all those things will practically finish themselves I bet. :-)
And in the meantime, feel free to vent to us, that's what we're here for!
((((((Catherine))))))
sue
I also sometimes do something similar to what Patrice said - I have a "Pity Pot" timer. Set it for an hour a week (or whatever) & hit the button whenever I need to feel sorry for myself, stop it when I'm done. If it runs out before the week's over, oh well, no more Pity Pot sitting 'til next week! Usually I don't need the whole amount of time either. It's just the thought that I can allow myself the time to do it maybe. Who knows? Not me! lol
I also believe that we need to watch those chick flicks that make us cry too. Nothing like chocolate & a good cry when you need one - and if you're watching one of those movies, you don't have to hide in the shower either. :wink:
In any case, try to relax a bit, take it easy on yourself. When you're ready, all those things will practically finish themselves I bet. :-)
And in the meantime, feel free to vent to us, that's what we're here for!
((((((Catherine))))))
sue
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