Wonnie

Learned a lesson along the way and that's that everyone doesn't have my same tastes. When I make a quilt it's because

MellieKQuilter

I have felt that disappointment where the recipient just doesnt "react" to the gift. Its disheartening. :( I gave a quilt to my parents, havent heard a word about it... I dont expect tons of kudos and adoration, but I guess I expected something.

KathyAire

I'm not offended. When someone gives me something, I like it because they gave it to me. I don't always like 'the thing' itself. Even if I don't always display it, I try to have it on display if that person visits me. It's just a nice thing to do.

babyfireo4

because what?
In answer to the topic title question... It depends on what it is. Yes, I do get a little offended if I make someone a quilt and they just fold it up and toss it in the back of there closet and never use it. I'm not offended if it is not prominently displayed in their home, because I know my tastes are different from other peoples :)

MellieKQuilter

So true! I gave a quilt to my quilter friend, and she was sooooo excited! And she is always excited to see my projects and new fabric.

DogHouseMom

I was offended only once. I knitted two baby blankets for my ex-brother-in-laws wife. She opened it, my ex-husband said immediately "Sue made those", and she pulled them out, looked at them breifly, and said .... wait for it ....

"what? no money?"

Needless to say I never did like the bitc ... person.

MellieKQuilter

:) that last sentence made me smile.. :):)

ckcowl

once i let it go- i don't worry about it i've never given a quilt to some one who didn't when they saw it said at least "Oh, wow, thanks" as they tossed it aside to open something else= or what ever. and that's enough- what they do with it from there is up to them. i did find out about an unhappy sister in law once- i went to her and asked why she didn't like the quilt-
it was not that she didn't like it -- it was i had made a quilt for their big overstuffed leather sofa---she really wanted a bed quilt--
problem solved. I've never seen either quilt since i gave them years ago- but sometimes i hear something from someone about one of them.:)

Katia

I think it kind of depends. I made quilts for my kids for Christmas and my daughters use theirs all the time. I have no idea about the one I made my son and DIL. He was showing me some stuff he had done in the master bath and the quilt was no where to be seen. Maybe they use it, but maybe not, they are very minimalist in their decorating so who knows. But yes, that did bug me a bit, but of course I didn't say anything.
I didn't hear whether my FIL liked the quilt I made him for quite awhile, but my husband said he asked and I guess he has it with him all the time. The nurses have to put it on him in his chair and over his bedding at night. It has become a sort of security thing I guess. That makes me happy.
You want your work to be appreciated. I think most of the time it is, but not always in the way you expect.

fabric_fancy

no i'm not offended, it means i didn't give them a gift that suits their taste, style, or lifestyle.

its not their fault, its mine for not putting more thought into their gift.

they are grateful for the gift and i always get a thank you and more often then not a thank you card but if it doesn't get hung or used then i know i went wrong some where along the line.

i typically ask them but i also have very up front relationships with the people i give quilts to and can ask for truthful feedback because i don't want to make something wrong for them again or give them a quilt at all if they don't like them.

i'm an artist and all my friends are artists so we understand critique and don't take it personal.

if you have an open relationship with these people you might just ask them whats up and ask that they tell you the truth but that means not getting upset if you don't like their answers.