flannel sheets should be getting softer with each wash and dry. check to see if they are all cotton. also, some of the best cotton flannel in the world comes from portugal, but it comes in many weights. hold yours up to the light and compare it to other weights. do you have hard water? that also makes a difference in feel. the chamois that i have been able to find was referred to as "men's shirt quality'. i wish i had some to send you. even a small bit to feel, but it's long gone. check garment fabrics as well as quilting fabrics.