This post just hits me in the heart. When I was your age, I was full of thoughts like yours -- was I good enough? As a Mom, as a PTA member, as a neighbor?
Now, 30 years later, I do what I like. If other folks like it, fine, if they don't, that's fine too.
I wonder, are there 'needlepoint police'? Are there 'weaving police'? Or is it just quilters who look for rules to follow?