Oh my, I surly don't blame you for being upset. I know, they (who are "they" ?) say, once a gift is given, it is no longer yours, and the gift-ee can do as they see fit. I know this is true, but I still become upset when I see my hard work being treated in such a manner. I'm sure the relative has not a clue as to what you put into that quilt. Forgive her in your heart and move on. You will feel better for it. And yes, rethink who to give your gifts too. Now, go brew a nice cup of tea, eat some chocolate, start planning your next beautiful quilt, and have a nice day.