Bus lady-- as someone who has been through way too many cancer bouts in our family, remember it is ok to cry, and it is strengthening to laugh! My dh was the most positive person ever with pancreatic cancer. He refused to even consider he might die. And he didn't! He has passed the 3 yr mark and is close to the fourth anniversary of his surgery. He is considered cancer free! I hope and pray that your sister will have the same great results! Sending love and hope to all of you!