Hi Mary -- your note did say that there was a bookmark in the "big girl panties" bag, but there wasn't a "big girl panties" bag in the box, or a bookmark. I didn't want to mention it, since it wasn't there, but since you asked ... I know stuff happens. It is a great swap package as it is! (Maybe we will meet up in another swap, so hang onto it!) Thanks so much so such a fun experience!