It sounds like you haven't found what quilting is right for you yet. Have you tried straight line quilting using that blue painter's tape. That is what works well for me....if I'm not doing SITD, which is my preferred way of quilting.
There are all kinds of straight line quilting ways that you could go with. The blue painter's tape is just so easy to use. Put it where you want and stitch next to it. You can even peel the tape off and reuse it a time or two.
And I always select a thread that just plain blends in. No contrasting here. That way I don't have to make a thread decision.
You will figure out what kind of quilting works for you. You just haven't yet.
Dina