Thanks everyone for reinforcing that what I did was what I should do (follow my gut).
For those that asked re the learning process or her desire to make a memory quilt herself for someone -
I have helped this person make at least two previous memory quilts herself. She has also been privy to a third memory quilt making another friend made that I quilted. She is a beginner quilter, does great work and is very (and I mean very) strong minded... She is accustomed to persistence getting her what she wants...
I felt she was just being nosy as she had heard me discuss the concept I was going to use - she just didn't get to see the final product.
Thank you very much everyone!