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    Old 06-19-2010, 07:22 PM
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    Aw, I think its a great quilt, and VERY patriotic!
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    Old 06-19-2010, 07:26 PM
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    Maybe your Dad will take the time to think about what he said to you and take some of his words back. It's important for you to know your gift was made in a loving way and no matter what he said he cannot take your intent away from you. I really hope you hear from him.
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    Old 06-19-2010, 07:26 PM
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    I loved it when I saw it. You did a beautiful job!

    That said, I'm wondering if your father had specifically asked for a patriotic quilt or wall hanging? If so, then while it was still rude of him not to appreciate your effort and the beauty of the quilt as it is, I guess I'd say he was right to be honest about it.

    It does look more like a quilt pattern than a patriotic wall hanging, IMO, even with the flag border. With his "guy's eye," that might be all he sees.

    The object of giving a gift is to please the recipient, so if you still want to give him something that will he will be pleased with, get his input when planning the next item. Choose something that takes less effort, since he doesn't appreciate the intricacy you put into this one.

    And then we all expect you to finish something else - for yourself!
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    Old 06-19-2010, 07:29 PM
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    ...I really hope this helps...
    My natural father does not always "get it" either. I know how that hurts! Here is what helps me...I turn over those hurts to my "other" Father...the BIG daddy. He saves our every tear. It helps me.
    He did see all the thought and love you put into your beautiful work. He has no fear of expressing His love lavishly! He even goes so far as to dance over you in delight. Remember HE IS rejoicing over your creation...He really, really loves creative efforts - kinda His specialty! LOL!
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    Old 06-19-2010, 07:29 PM
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    {{{ Big Hug }}} Not much fun when that's the reaction. But you love'en any way cause thier yours. :)
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    Old 06-19-2010, 07:33 PM
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    I am so sorry, I know firsthand how much it hurts. And to have your father say it of all people! I have come to realize that those who do not participate in making handcrafted items really don't appreciate the hard work, the hours spent, the cost of materials, and love that goes into them. It's so easy to walk into a store and buy something off a shelf and not think about how and where it was made that handcrafted items go right over their heads! The quilt is beautiful, very patriotic and I can say I'd be proud to hang it on my wall.
    You picked a great place to vent--we can all feel your pain!
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    Old 06-19-2010, 07:34 PM
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    Wow, just wow. Sorry, but I just do not think there is any excuse what so ever for that kind of behavior. I have had similar happen and it was the last gift they ever got from me. No one, not even a father has the right to behave that way.
    In my family it did not matter what you were given, you were grateful. If you honestly did not like it, the giver never knew. My family has a lot of gifted artists and craftsmen in it and I think that comes from the appreciation we got from each other.
    The last few Christmas's my kids and us (mom and Dad) have made a pact to only give handmade gifts for the big gifts. Either something we make ourselves or buy from a crafts person. We do not do it to save money, we do it to make Christmas more special. To give a part of yourself is the greatest gift anyone can ever give.
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    Old 06-19-2010, 07:47 PM
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    Agreed, I would bring him a box of choc covered cherries instead and bring your project home! I think you did an outstanding job on it, don't let this upset you anymore! Don't spend good energy on it!
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    Old 06-19-2010, 07:49 PM
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    I LOVE it - who knows why he said that. Please don't let that bother you anymore. Just go on and make those very nice quilts/wall hangings!
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    Old 06-19-2010, 07:51 PM
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    I am so sorry...my mom did the same thing to me one time..so I know how horrible it is and all I can say is that I think your quilt is lovely.
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