I'm upset...he didn't like it
06-20-2010, 11:09 PM
#261
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If this is very unlike him to say something this hurtful then maybe something medically is wrong with him. If this is normal for him it sounds like you should just say Happy Fathers Day and leave it at that. If he says where is he's present then say 'here I am'.
06-21-2010, 12:28 AM
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had my dad reject one of my gifts when I was a kid...still hurts. and I am 75. don't let it get you down. take the quilt home and find someone who will appreciate it. I think is a great quilt.
06-21-2010, 12:54 AM
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Some men can be such mindless oafs! :thumbdown:
I am so sorry to hear about his reaction. Sadly, it probably wouldn't help to tell him how badly he hurt you... if he is a "thinker" instead of a "feeler" he would not understand. When we cast our pearls before the swine of this world who don't understand or appreciate the time, work and love that goes into our offerings... we can only feel sorry for what they miss.
Unfortunately good thoughts do not a broken heart heal, do they?
I am so sorry to hear about his reaction. Sadly, it probably wouldn't help to tell him how badly he hurt you... if he is a "thinker" instead of a "feeler" he would not understand. When we cast our pearls before the swine of this world who don't understand or appreciate the time, work and love that goes into our offerings... we can only feel sorry for what they miss.
Unfortunately good thoughts do not a broken heart heal, do they?
06-21-2010, 04:03 AM
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It doesn't surprise me one bit. I've been there and I really, really feel for you. Everyone is right though. It is his loss. It is a shame he will never know it. My parents were like that though my father did change shortly before he died. It took over 80 years to get any decency from my parents and then it was just from one of them. Chin up, and know that it doesn't reflect on your quilting. One of the pitfalls of gift giving is that you never know how your gift will be received.
06-21-2010, 04:36 AM
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How old is your Dad? Health? It could be because of reasons unknown he would say such a terrible thing. It is beautiful! The first quilt I ever gave away, I have never seen again at a very good friends house. I am sure they don't even have it. Some people just don't appreciate the time, effort and love it takes to give such a beautiful gift. Don't stop, keep going. I am sure, at some point he will look at it and say, "My daughter made it" and have pride in his voice. Hugs X 10. It is a work of art, from you!
06-21-2010, 04:38 AM
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How old is your Dad? Health? It could be because of reasons unknown he would say such a terrible thing. It is beautiful! The first quilt I ever gave away, I have never seen again at a very good friends house. I am sure they don't even have it. Some people just don't appreciate the time, effort and love it takes to give such a beautiful gift. Don't stop, keep going. I am sure, at some point he will look at it and say, "My daughter made it" and have pride in his voice. Hugs X 10. It is a work of art, from you! If you don't see it, just go back and get it. Keep it for yourself and remember it was your first one you machine quilted. YOU SHOULD BE VERY PROUD OF WHAT YOU ACCOMPLISHED.
06-21-2010, 04:38 AM
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It's perfect. And I love it.
06-21-2010, 04:38 AM
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I'm sorry! Your wall hanging is lovely and you should be very proud of your thoughtfulness and your nice work on this project. DON"T let this incident stiffle your your creativity or your productivity....you did a good thing..your father may learn to be gracious and appreciative someday but try not to harbor too much disappointment at his shortcomings. I'm sure he's re-thinking his reaction to your gift and is probably sorry to the bone that he was ..so insensitive. HUGS
06-21-2010, 05:08 AM
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I usually make a quilt for someone...think of them while I pick the pattern, fabric. Think of them while I'm making it. I can't wait for them to receive it. I have been disappointed more times than not when giving a gift of a quilt, so now I'm more selective re who I make quilts for. I gave a baby quilt to a relative many years ago...I went to visit their home a few months later and entered the house through the garage and saw the stained, nasty quilt in the greasy rags box. So when she had more babies, she did not receive another quilt from me. As other relatives have babies, I continue to make them quilts...this particular gal is clearly angry that she never received any more...but I don't have the nerve to tell her why. I expect my quilts to used and make them sturdy enought to endure many, many washings...but to use it as a grease rag...I don't get it.
06-21-2010, 05:23 AM
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soo sorry that happened to you! I think it is awesome & I would be proud to display your quilt in my home!
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