Follow up on my quilt police visit.
#61
Glad to hear your friend didn't let this unhappy cousin get in the way of the friendship. Some people sure can make life interesting on some days. I have met a few in my lifetime and I can understand why the earth's axis is on a wee tilt. Thanks for sharing, I wondered how things were going.
#62
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Someday life is going to pass this young lady by and she is going to wonder why she is alone and with few friends. I feel sorry for her because she obviously does not know about the simpler pleasures in life that can bring a person so much joy and happiness. A few weeks ago, one of the subjects we discussed were people who give away beautiful handmade items given to them as gifts--sounds like she may be 'one of those.'
#63
I read your 1st post and I'm still reeling my jaw up off of the floor. We all put our pants on the same way, it appears she has an aggravating knot in hers. The good news is she left for Fl totally opposite direction from my neck of the woods. Whew!
#64
I'm with you, you have to feel sad for someone so insecure they drive people away from them when what they crave is to be close.
Also, maybe the cousin (your friend) should step away too - her relative may not get it, yet - but, just because you were born into or married into a family it doesnt mean they are attached to you at the hip like a Siamese twin! We do get to choose whom we love and care for and about, many people figure they can treat you like doodoo but you have to take it cus you're related! Not true!
Also, since the relative is so "helpful" she should not be insulted if one chooses to "help her" see the light-
anyway, it is good you took your friend under your sewing needle, and are there to help her develop w/o being judgmental, if her family is like her cousin she will need you quilting support sharet
Also, maybe the cousin (your friend) should step away too - her relative may not get it, yet - but, just because you were born into or married into a family it doesnt mean they are attached to you at the hip like a Siamese twin! We do get to choose whom we love and care for and about, many people figure they can treat you like doodoo but you have to take it cus you're related! Not true!
Also, since the relative is so "helpful" she should not be insulted if one chooses to "help her" see the light-
anyway, it is good you took your friend under your sewing needle, and are there to help her develop w/o being judgmental, if her family is like her cousin she will need you quilting support sharet
#67
Originally Posted by Kayaker26
I have read both the original topic and todays and while I understand some people do have problems you all are just too nice this girl is a witch with a b. Why is it people are not called on their crap but given an excuse for it. She should have been told along time before this to keep her nasty opinion to herself.
to start to change her she needs to be shunned for her badness and every little tiny nice thing she can do must be phrased - so she wants to be nicer and nicer. That is what she should have learned when she was about 10 mos old and up - she should have had that down before kindergarden. Now, she may go her whole life this way, and its sad because she's doing this to herself and doesnt even know it. We can walk away from her and tell her off, tell her to leave, but she can't walk out on herself. She may have been a really wonderful person and friend, and that is a waste of a life.
There are a lot like her roaming the world these days. sharet
#68
Originally Posted by kaykwilts
Originally Posted by Happy Tails
Sure gives special meaning to - you can pick your friends, but not your relatives...
#69
Originally Posted by kaykwilts
Originally Posted by Happy Tails
Sure gives special meaning to - you can pick your friends, but not your relatives...
Obviously there are many people who have problems with understanding where their boundaries end and another's begins. And to keep yourself both emotionally and physically safe you must stop them. Because sure as sugar, they are not going to stop themselves! If they would, we would have no rape, murder, or war! They did not start out as rapists, murderers, or warlords on day one. They were able to get away with things all along because others made excuses!
I am not comparing the cousin to a rapist, murderer, or warlord. But left unchecked by others allowing her to get away with poor behavior, is only setting her up for bigger problems in life. If you want to be kind to her, you need to let her know her behavior is not acceptable!
#70
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Join Date: Jul 2010
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you deserve to quilt, uncriticized, for the rest of your days, after that encounter! your young friend sounds like a gem, though, and someone who values your friendship. i'm in agreement that this cousin may truly have a psychological problem--perhaps a borderline personality, or even a bit of the sociopath thrown in. these are often people who really, truly can't control what comes out of their mouths, and they believe that they are honestly right, all the time. i hope your friend can forgive her cousin, and balance the family relationship with safe distance!
kudos to you, and to your friend who is sensitive enough to take responsibility for her cousin, even when such things are out of one's control. i say keep her, and throw out the experience!
kudos to you, and to your friend who is sensitive enough to take responsibility for her cousin, even when such things are out of one's control. i say keep her, and throw out the experience!
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