nygal

I would also wait.

JanTx

I want to take a moment to recognize a thread where EVERYONE agreed! I don't know that this has ever happened before! So .... I'm going to finish it - some quilts just beg to be made - but I won't give it yet. And it's made in such a way that it will be easy to replace the name panel if necessary. Won't quilt it - that can be done last minute.

Thanks for all the great advice. Such kind thoughts from everyone. My losses so many years ago are still ... not fresh .. but there. I'm still not sure how I would feel if I had something that physically recognized that those babies ever existed somewhere but in my heart and memory.

Giving now might be ... hurtful? Waiting can give nothing but joy. Thanks!

JulieR

If the worst should happen and you've already made the quilt, there's no reason you couldn't give it to them anyway. Then the association will be remembrance instead of anticipation.

After our battle with IVF I've stopped giving anything early. If anyone has noticed they've never said

Grandma Peg

what some sad stories, oh my! I usually wait til the baby shower

twinkie

Having lost three babies in my 2nd and 3rd trimester, I would definitely say to wait until the baby is viable and stands a chance. It is tragic to lose one at any time during the pregnancy. This is just my experience. Thank God I do have 3 children that survived. Praying that their pregnancy has a happy ending. If something happens and it is not successful, perhaps they would want to wrap the baby in the quilt like my best friend did with her grandson that didn't survive. Just a thought but we are praying for this couple and their baby.

ArtsyOne

I usually have a couple of baby quilts completed and in my stash. Then I wait until the baby is born and named and applique the name onto the quilt and am ready to mail it within a few days. (I always mail)

MargeD

I would definitely wait until the baby is born to applique the baby's name on the quilt. I had a miscarriage at 4 1/2 months, I was heartbroken. It's a difficult time and sometimes you don't want to think about it as it's too painful. Well, 14 months later I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy(which the OB/GYN said was a girl) who was 8 and 1/2 lbs. and 21 inches long. Two and a half years later after a somewhat difficult pregnancy,(hate morning sickness) gave birth to a beautiful daughter (which the OB/GYN said was a boy). They are now 37, soon to be 38 next month, and 35 years old. That's a long answer to the question, but I would wait until the baby is here.

Julie in NM

Wait. My first son w/still born. Nothing is worse than packing baby things knowing you won't be using them.

Grannyh67

I would wait, you never know and waiting will be the best thing to do.

sosewcrazy

I'd wait and include the date, weight, length, etc.