mamaw

Wow, some of your interpretations of honesty is quite interesting. I had never thought of some of this reasoning.
Mad Quilter.....thank you for requesting that God and Gay lifestyles be left out of here. The original comment that mentioned "gay" was referring to how honesty isn't taken well at times...not to invite personal comments about gayness.
Sad that people use honesty to hurt people; and am sure that is not most of our intent. Anna.425 expressed my feelings about honesty well; someone only did so to help her and succeeded.
Keep the comments coming....I am enjoying both sides of this subject; just please keep it on honesty. Thanks all
Quiltmau..I have a wonderful friend in NY who has the same relationship with me as you speak of with your friend; and we really appreciate in each other. We have both needed a little long distance reality check a couple of times, and we are grateful for each other and all honesty.

CanoePam

My mother and grandmother always made a big deal about "being honest". In my view their "honesty" was just a way to stick their opinions in about anything. For example, I got new furniture for my living room in a medium green. I did not ask my mother if she liked is, but the first time she saw she said "I have to be honest, this is a dreadful color and you absolutely wasted your money on it". To me, that is not honest but hurtful. I pretty much told her that this was my house and my choice, and if she didn't like it she could keep her opinions to herself. She huffed and puffed and didn't come to my house for 5 years (but then again, we lived 400 miles away). She also rearranged my kitchen once because "Honestly Pam, your organization skills are very poor". Well, I'm 5'9 and she was not quite 5', so her reorganization was very poor for me! I told her that I was going to store and that I expected the kitchen to be put back the way it was when I returned in an hour and a half. BTW, it was though she was deeply offended. I didn't care - I was deeply offended! I learned to just ignore minor issues and push back at the big ones. You can't help people who practice that kind of "honesty" because they are convinced they are helpful.

Pam

Yrnstr

Honesty in the sense of no phoniness or game-playing, yes. But no, I wouldn't necessarily tell my friends EVERYthing I think. It also depends on the depth of the friendship: some folks, you are closer with, so you can be more candid with them than with others.

Opal Jane

I am honest to a fault, with everyone. People know not to ask me my opinion or a question because I am going to be honest and they might not like what I have to say. People say they want others to be honest with them but in reality they really don't want to hear the truth.

The one thing I do hate is if you say you are going to do something than do it. For example don't tell me you will get back to me and then never do, don't tell me you will call me next week and then never do. After a person does this to me a couple of times, I come to the conclusion that there words don't mean anything.

Baloonatic

I was honest with one I thought was a very good friend. She couldn't deal with it I guess. I agree, if you can't be honest, it wasn't much of a friendship!