Another name for Grandma?
04-29-2011, 06:46 AM
#21
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I have to say.. this hit a spot with me. We have been in this situation before (twice now). My DH father passed on when my DH was 14. So I never knew his real dad. When I joined the family his mom was remarried for 3 years prior to. My DH called his step dad by his first name. When we decided to start our own family. I told my husband I thought it was best our kids call him grandpa. He has since passed on (he was the best step dad a person could ask for). My MIL has remarried again (yes 3rd time) and now my kids call him Coleman and their kids call him gramps Coleman. They save the papa for their actual grandparents.
Now my GF's parents split 9 months after she married. Both her parents have since remarried, so these kids have 3 sets of grandparents, and how they handled it was, they say gram Nancy, gram Sue and Gram Betty. The guys are all called papa Dan, papa Bob and papa Earl. So why can't they call you nana then your first name?
Now my GF's parents split 9 months after she married. Both her parents have since remarried, so these kids have 3 sets of grandparents, and how they handled it was, they say gram Nancy, gram Sue and Gram Betty. The guys are all called papa Dan, papa Bob and papa Earl. So why can't they call you nana then your first name?
04-29-2011, 06:51 AM
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Originally Posted by Jeanniejo
My husbands son and daughter-in-law's children call my DH Grandpa Ben. They were told by our sweet DIL that I was NOT their grandmother and to call me by my first name. Thank God I am getting my OWN first grandchild in May and will finally called grandma!!
It may be hard for you to do, but once your own grandchild comes along, try to treat the DILs children as well as your 'own' grand. Their Mom made the mean decision to marginalize you in their lives, not the kids.
04-29-2011, 06:53 AM
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As you can see every one calls me Gramie they add BJ when talking in a group to help keep all there grand parents seperate some of the others are Nanna Nancy, Grama Elda, ect. Why not ask your son what they would like there child to caa you? What ever it is the child will love you and your quilt
04-29-2011, 07:36 AM
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Originally Posted by Mamagus
Matt has already told his dad that his Mom's new husband will NOT be "Poppy-Kevin". So that leaves me wondering if that was a hint... I will not be "Nanny Lori".
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I say just ask. Acknowledge you aren't the biological grandma but you'd love to have a relationship with their child, and what would they like you to go by? You aren't being pushy about it, just giving them the opportunity to make the decision themselves.
Whatever they decide, as others have said it isn't really important in the long run. What is important is having a good relationship with all of them.
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