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    Birthday gift or not

    If a childhood friend (who lives far away but we keep in touch somewhat by email) sent you a birthday gift from her business and included her business card would you feel obligated to send her a gift for her birthday or is a birthday card enough? I don't like doing gift exchanges anyway.

    When I saw her a few years ago, she was trying to sell me items from the business she was in at the time. What do you think?

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    Nope. I had the lady handling our High School reunion get togethers ask everyone for their Social Security numbers!! not getting that from me either.

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    most of the time when a friend really likes you as a friend. they don't try just to sell you stuff. She is promoting her business and hoping you will buy. Just send a card since you don't keep in that good of contact anyways. A real friend calls you and says Hi how are you, I miss talking to you. that is what my friends do.
    you do what you feel comfortable with.
    personally I would just send a card.
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    no a card is fine..

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    I think if you wonder if you should send a gift or not then don't. A card is fine. Good question.

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    I agree that you don't need to send a gift. I might send a little thank you card now and a birthday card on her b-day but wouldn't buy her a gift.

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    No way. Sounds like she is just in it for the sale. That's just annoying IMHO
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    Quote Originally Posted by Grandma Bonnie View Post
    I agree that you don't need to send a gift. I might send a little thank you card now and a birthday card on her b-day but wouldn't buy her a gift.
    That's what I'd do, too. And if she's miffed that you don't buy her a gift, she won't give you one next year & you won't have this same dilemma then.
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    Send a card, if you care to. I try to never feel obligated - that's not gifting to me.

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    I think I'd just send an E-card or wish her happy birthday on facebook.
    If no one ever experimented we'd all still be making 4 patches.

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    No, she's just promoting her business and it's a tax write-off. If you've always exchanged cards in the past, no need for you to change.

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    just send a card email or other. no gift. joyce j

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    Just a card. Did she enclose a greeting card with the gift she sent or just her business card?

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    It sounds more like a free sample than a gift.

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    just a card
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    Quote Originally Posted by grandmaemma View Post
    I think if you wonder if you should send a gift or not then don't. A card is fine. Good question.
    Amen to that one! Unless of course you have something you could sell her....
    "The business of life is making memories. In the end, it is all we have." Butler Charlie Carson, Downton Abbey, season 4, episode 3, PBS.

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    If you have not been in the habit of exchanging birthday gifts over the years, it seems odd to start now, unless you have become closer, which seems not to be the case.
    When you say a gift from her business, do you mean like a mug with her company name on it or something?!!

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    Just a card.
    If a woman's work is never done....why start?

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    Quote Originally Posted by burchquilts View Post
    That's what I'd do, too. And if she's miffed that you don't buy her a gift, she won't give you one next year & you won't have this same dilemma then.
    That should work! However, I have a friend who does this every year for Christmas, but through the rest of the year does not usually even answer emails. DH won't let me extend gift giving that far as we have been putting 3 kids through college over the last 8 years. So I explained this to her once and always send her a thank you note and a BD and Christmas card every year. It's puzzling that she continues to do it.
    Last edited by BuzzinBumble; 07-14-2012 at 06:12 AM.

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    The gift was a food product from the line she sells online, at stores, and at craft fairs. Yes she did include a birthday card.

    Thanks all of you for the input, I think a card for her will do it.

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    Just an e-card would be fine, if you feel comfortable with it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nativetexan View Post
    Nope. I had the lady handling our High School reunion get togethers ask everyone for their Social Security numbers!! not getting that from me either.
    That is a strange request. Wonder what she was up to! I would ask her what she planned to do with that information. If she was trying to steal your identity, she was certainly brazen about it. Nobody would get my SS number!

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