Courtesy & good manners: lost arts?
07-16-2011, 05:18 AM
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I work as a cashier in a gas station & get plenty of rude people (esp talking on cellphones) The other night I had a young man 18,19,20ish come to the register who was very indignant. He had held the door open for an older man & the man never said Thank You. The kid said if it had been him who didn't say Thank You, the older man probably would have blasted him for being rude & he's probably right I know the man the kid was talking about. He IS a rude son-of-a-gun. I don't blame the kid for being angry.
I can always tell when the kids who come into the station are in the military. It's always Yes maam, no maam. I don't like being called maam--it makes me feel old (I'm 68) but I appreciate that these kids are so polite.
BTW I mean no disrespect when I call them 'kids'. to me, they're all just babies.
I can always tell when the kids who come into the station are in the military. It's always Yes maam, no maam. I don't like being called maam--it makes me feel old (I'm 68) but I appreciate that these kids are so polite.
BTW I mean no disrespect when I call them 'kids'. to me, they're all just babies.
07-16-2011, 05:37 AM
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Well said!
07-16-2011, 05:55 AM
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Brings back many memories . But saw one last week when out on a 2 wk fishing trip . We were sitting around talking abt 25 grownups ages 27-65 and small kids 1-12. when My Mom 83 & a Dear friend 78 came out of the camper both have problems with certain chair . But one Great great niece 5yrs old setting in a good chair jumps down said Grandma Johnnie here then turned around pinched her brother 12, said Aunt Mables need your chair. Their Dad just smiled .My Mom kissed & hug her Mable gave them a home made cookie. But MY FAMILY was raised w/ manners or else(you didn't want any part of else). Its still alive in lots of families .
07-16-2011, 06:06 AM
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I was asked to come to a Girl Scout meeting so that the girls could help me with the Christmas stockings for our soldiers. I didn't know any of the girls and was thrilled that they wanted to participate in this effort.
They really seemed to enjoy it.
When their parents came to pick them up, the girls showed off their stockings and left. Just left. Nine girls, nine parents - empty room. The Girl Scout Leader thanked me said that she hoped that I would come back again and teach them something else next year. Not a chance.
They really seemed to enjoy it.
When their parents came to pick them up, the girls showed off their stockings and left. Just left. Nine girls, nine parents - empty room. The Girl Scout Leader thanked me said that she hoped that I would come back again and teach them something else next year. Not a chance.
07-16-2011, 06:16 AM
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I agree that it crosses all ages. The other day we were going into the grocery store and this older man in a scooter was struggling to get in the door. My husband stopped and helped him through and he zoomed right on past, no "thank you" and missed hitting my two year old by a couple of inches in his haste. I was VERY put out about that.
Whereas, my two year old...if anyone sneezes ALWAYS says "Bless you" and when the reciever says "thank you" she responds with "your welcome." I would like to hope that we will raise thankful and polite children.
I agree that common decency isn't common any longer.
Whereas, my two year old...if anyone sneezes ALWAYS says "Bless you" and when the reciever says "thank you" she responds with "your welcome." I would like to hope that we will raise thankful and polite children.
I agree that common decency isn't common any longer.
07-16-2011, 06:17 AM
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Originally Posted by ontheriver
I don't know if it makes a difference because I live in rural Alabama and but I meet very few people, children included that do not use yes mame, no mame when speaking to you or please and thankyou. Adults even address people this way if they suspect you are even a day older than them. Everyone is very friendly and polite. They don't dare let their momma hear otherwise. Even friends will use a miss or mr in front of a person's first name, like Miss Julie, or Mr. Wayne.
Jan in VA
07-16-2011, 06:19 AM
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Originally Posted by ptquilts
as we move from a "community" based society to an "individual" based society, this will become more common. It's all about ME ME ME and who cares if your feelings get hurt.
so sad
:-( , but so true......
07-16-2011, 06:22 AM
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Originally Posted by dinlauren
I have been teaching for many years and ever year have to teach common courtesy to a large number of children. I know the teachers at my school teach manners. It doesn't mean they internalize them if they are not reinforced at home or in the general public. I remind kids what good manners they have when a child, either in my class or another class, does something like open the door for me or pick up something I dropped. It is the only way I know how to get them to do it again and again...praise and example!!
I did the same thing when I taught----it was necessary!
07-16-2011, 06:28 AM
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I can only say, well said Hen3retta..............calla
07-16-2011, 06:40 AM
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We were taught that courtesy and good manners by our moms. So many children now are raised by so many different day cares,etc., I think they are very confused to say the least.
Sorry, but I think if you have children it is your obligation to raise them to have manners and common sense. Just my opinion....no offense intended.
Sorry, but I think if you have children it is your obligation to raise them to have manners and common sense. Just my opinion....no offense intended.
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