mhansen6

Yes, I am often blue. But I always know why. We lost our youngest daughter 5 years ago. She was my best friend. So when I am blue it is because I am missing her. I call it a bad Katie day. Today will be a good Katie day. Full of happy memories. The 4th of July was always special.

Owllady

Yes, sometimes I will start crying for no reason I can think of. Kinda embarrassing, don't you think? Guess it is just being a woman.

luvstoquilt

I know the feeling...it is new for me. I lost my husband over 3 years ago, retired a year and 1/2 later, moved across the country to be near my kids that I adore, bought and totally remodeled my home, established a garden, began doing volunteer work at the library and with the state concerning aging. Now, all of a sudden, I am not quite happy. Life seems sort of boring and I am sort of in a "funk". I get up early, take a long walk, come home, drink some coffee, shower and make myself get busy. I think of the song by Peggy Lee.."Is this all there is?" I am hoping this is just a stage and I will get past it! Meanwhile, knowing others feel the same (thanks to this board)makes it seem better. Hope it does the same for you!

MrsM

I agree. I have been on Prozac for a few years. It just evens out my moods. But lately I feel as if it isn't enough. :roll:

writerwomen

Yes, before I was diagnosed with Hypothyroidism. When the thyroid is off you can feel depressed, foggy, confused, lost, very blue, like there is a dark cloud hanging all around you, moody, tired and so on. Get it checked. Your thyroid reading should fall in the .5- 1.5 range. Though doctors say it can be a much larger range that is the optimal span. At my worst I was very depressed and felt like walking off and never returning wouldn't be an issue. Another time when the med was off I would have to strain to try and make sense out of simple sentences. My husband would say- Did you put the dog out. I'd stand there staring at him trying to think through how to even spell the word did.- It took quite a bit of convincing to get the doctors to see it as it was due to the switch in brand of med they gave me. You can also feel hyper even if briefly, irritable, sleepless and so on.

Rock Lady

I have it and have had it for years. I find the best thing to do is just get busy doing something or call someone and chat for awhile. My husband does not understand this "foolishness". Of course, he is still working (refuses to retire) and is always talking to someone so I guess that keeps his mind busy. Often I just have to make myself get up out of that chair and do something. I keep thinking "this too shall pass" and sometimes it does. Hang in there.

debby wicke

Life is too short to experience the blues...having to deal with the same feeling my suggestion is to run to doctor and get help. God bless

arimuse

I actually was very depressed/moody from about the age of 14 until I hit menopause. (wanted to commit suicide around 14) The hot flashes were a B* but even thru them, menopause made me feel like I had a whole new life in front of me. Being old, except for the beat body is the best time of my life!

I have never ever liked Drs or meds - the only time I went to Dr for it was when I was 19 and the Dr said: "do you have a boyfriend?", yes, "is he here?", no, in Vietnam, "well, you'll feel better when he comes home." The end. After that the only time I've been to a Dr is for mandatory work physicals. (Oh, went in for diabetes tests, too - at least 5 times in 30 yrs cus I know my own body and how its acting - they said every time, you're fine!! My GF F and uncle died of diabetes complications, it runs on dads side - I kept telling them to check for both kinds, nope, only give me the same one test over and over. Now, I just follow dads diet, eat 6 small meals thru the day and religiously stay away from sugars and hidden sugars and feel 100% better!)

I do think hypothyroid is an underdiagnosed issue and can make you feel just terrible. You have to beat a Dr over the head to check for certain things.

It is esp very depressing to be alone on holidays. I was/am alone alot. Hubs is now on the boat for a week. Try not to drug yourself with foods or anything else that may become addictive (meds, smokes, booze, shopping etc). Find a scent you love, that makes you crazy happy when you smell it. Lately I've been nuts for the new Old Spice deoderants. Open one and but it on a vent that is running, hot or cold, just to get the smell in the room. Wear it all over you! It's what makes you happy to smell!!! What matters is you and your mood - not the what will people think if I do THAT - thing.

If you like certain colors, go thru your stash and play with them. Start a small new project you can pick up when you want and you wont beat yourself up for not finishing. Try anything new you always wanted to do but were afraid to try - anything. Wear a color you love, but were told "looks bad on you!" What is your fav movie (NOT a sad one! a happy one!)Watch some of your fav funny/happy ending movies. Make a pot of homemade - loose popcorn in a real pot, pop it not the micor, put in your fav flavors, or try something new - I watch Arsenic and Old Lace and eat chili popcorn.

Get outside, mow the lawn, the smell is incredible, plant something, anything, go for a walk, get a little sunshine on you, 20 min in the sun can lift you. Ride a bike. Take a day and see what/how you eat then start a better way - even eating right can make your mood better. Smile at everyone. Go to the grocery and let people in line ahead of you, smile. Talk to strangers in line, smile. .Do not dwell on feeling depressed, do not talk to people about problems, do not talk in any way negative, dont watch any news shows any pointlessly violent programs. The brain is a wonderful machine, it will go where you program it. You can program w/ chemicals (meds) or you can program with chemicals already in your body - the thing with your body is you are in charge of it and you have to figure out what will program for you. Smells, smiles, foods, laughter, can help release the hormones, trigger brain changes to turn off the depression. Sad, angry, violent things, darkness, can make it trigger into depression.

The aloneness can be altered just by a PM to anyone on this board! We are all here and will be here if you are so down you just want to talk w/ someone. sharet

maryb44662

"Ditto".... I'm a widow and loved my husband dearly, however, I am happy to be alone with my furbaby. He and I get along just fine by ourselves. Now, my kids (3 daughters and their families) come over at times, but they have their own lives to live too. I do not interfere with what they do or don't do. Am proud of everyone of them. We get together on holidays at one of their homes....when I get tired of the noise, I come home. That is the beauty part of living alone. Hugs to you....just think, you have more than some folks....love to you...Mary

polly13

It does happen. I'll feel I have no real friends. I even think I'll never sew again at times, but don't do anything rash. Normalcy comes back and I'm always happy I didn't do something I would later be sorry for.