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Old 10-08-2009, 06:37 PM
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Jane: hang in there. You've gotten some good advice from everyone here. I think at one time or another we all go to that "dark place" and need time and love to get out of it. I go there from October to March. My
dil and yours sound alike. I searched for months for the right color fabric for a table runner for her BD ande invited them to dinner. She couldn't come-was out with girlfriends so I sent the runner home with my son. Did she like it? Who the hell knows--that was in June and she hasn't mentioned it one way or the other. I did what someone suggested and posted a pic here and got lots of positive feedback (thanks, guys!) Just know we're here and pulling for you.
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Old 10-08-2009, 10:24 PM
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Jane you made those quilts with love and thats what counts if they are not appreciated then make them ones who do appreciate the time and love put into them. The loss of someone you love is always hard I recently lost my brother and found myself in no mood to sew I felt lost. give yourself time to grieve then make something for yourself that will remind you of your friend that you can hang above your sewing machine. We will hold you up with lots of hugs.
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Old 10-08-2009, 11:05 PM
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Jane, i'm so sorry how you're feeling. I think i know how you are feeling. You gave a gift from your heart to your grandaughter, because you want to be remembered as a very special person in her life. I think we get to an age in life, me too, where we want to start creating memories that people will remember us by. We want to know that what we did here on earth was good and has a lasting memory. I do understand. My daughter is like that too, about gifts that we give to her daughter. What i have finally realized is, it's not about how they care for the quilt, or whatever the "item" may be. I told somebody i am scared to make a quilt for my daughter, because i'm scared she wont like it. So my friend told me, don't care if she likes it or not, or what she does with it. This is a lasting memory that you want to do, so just do it. Don't even worry bout if she likes it or throws it out is what my friend said. He told me, this is what i want to do, so just do it. He said my memory will be in the making and giving of the gift, not what happens to it after it's out of my hands. He told me to draw a line, after giving it to her, draw a line, smile, know i did my thing, and it's no longer mine after i've given it away. So he was trying to tell me, if i give something away, don't hang on to it, but keep the memory of what i did, and that i did what i wanted to do. So that is what i am going to do, she is getting a quilt, and i will do it my way. And if she likes it or not, i dont care, i need to do this for me, because it's important to me, see what i mean? You asked about BOM's. When i first came to the forum here, i started doing the blocks of the month. They are so quick and easy, no pressure, just one little block. And they are so much fun. You will love how everyone talks about their block, then puts up pictures, there is a lot of chitchat in the bom section, that is really fun and inspiring. I think you would really love that, and would be something just fun and simple for you to do. I havent been doing the bom's lately, only because i have too many projects i'm working on, but i really think you would love doing this. I'm so sorry how you're feeling, but know that you will feel better soon.
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Old 10-09-2009, 02:10 AM
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For me personally, BOM's are a 'good thing'...I did a sampler (plus others I should not confess!LOL) and picked up actually 2 a month from a shop for this....it taught me much and kept me on my toes...for if I finished them, brought them in the next month I had a discount on my next blocks...etc. You will learn much from these!! Some will even deliver in the mail...but, if you can get out and go pick them up...I recommend it! The one shop here on BOM saturday does a small program early doing a show and tell in a sense of what is new and what is happening...much fun!
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Old 10-09-2009, 06:23 AM
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You guys are so wonderful-----this is the greatest board. I just signed up for a BOM at one of the shops on FabShopHop. Its the Pennsylvania Dutch One cause I am PA Dutch and loved the colors and the design looks ok. I hope they give me instructions on how to put it together.

As for going to the shops to pick them up we have only one and I have yet to go and see it. I know that the local shops are too expensive for me so dont want to temp my self. Cause I just love to shop for fabric. I did find last month a Walmart who is an hour away has a really good fabric department and according to the manager of that department plans on keeping it. She has a large assostment of fabric and states that she buys 2000 bolts a month. She carries the quilt of the month and you can find them shown at AEnathanfabrics.com. I bought the one for September when I was home for the month of August. I fell in the love with the October one called fudge ripple but have not had the money to buy it. When I do she will probably be out of it, she told me that it was half gone already and that was a week ago. So we will see next week when we go for our monthly trip to walmart. Thanks everyone for trying to cheer me up.
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Glad you jumped aboard to the BOM's! You won't be sorry!! Best part is they are not overwhelming...for you have a month to get it done...which for me was always in the first week! I couldn't stand to wait!!:)They always come w/the instructions and you will learn since you are not in a rush how to perfect your cutting and sewing! It's a great way to do so too! Then at the end of the story...you have some blocks to put together for a whole quilt(minus the borders)! I'd take mine out and put them on my flannel design wall....just to see how great they were looking as they grew in numbers:)You will love it too! Skeat
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Old 10-09-2009, 07:51 AM
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i think it's time for this conversation to move over to a PDA.

jane ... i'm glad to see you're starting to cheer up. please start a PDA to keep everybody posted.

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