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    Back in the last 70's when Grandpa died and everyone was cleaning out the house, deviding things up, I never asked for anything and pleased at what was given me, BUT silently wishing like crazy I'd get grandmas old treadle. I'm upset but silent when my sister asks for it AND GETS IT. For years afterwards I kept hoping she'd ask if I wanted it since it was grandmas. Nope. Nothing. Since quilting I kept thinking about it til yesterday I emailed her at work and asked her if she'd be willing to give it to me. SHE GOT RID OF IT YEARS AGO! I swear my heart stopped right there. I was never asked....... :( Sorry. I just had to vent to someone who would KNOW the feelings. DH just says "well it was hers" GRRRR :x

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    I know how you feel. Sisters!!!!! You just have to love them.

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    I love mine but not real happy with her at the moment :roll:

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    Bev, my mother did the same thing with my grandma's machine. when I asked for it she told me it had been gone for years, and she never asked me. I was upset but I guess you will eventually get over it. Sorry about it.

    Maria

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    i will get over it. it just kinda threw me for a loop for a bit

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    I certainly understand your anger. You would have thought she'd ask the members of the family if anyone wanted it.

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    yes, thats how i feel. but i guess i can't cry over spilt milk. :(

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    doesn't that teach us all a lesson, I was always like you, never asking for anything just hoping someone would read my mind and know that I secretly wanted something. I have to push myself to be a little more outspoken even though its against my nature (especially with my sister who could cut you to peices with her tongue) I have learned over the years to ask, it never hurts. You may not get what you want, but no one knows you want it unless you speak up!

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    Isn't this sort of stuff what the PDA section is for?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Moonpi
    Isn't this sort of stuff what the PDA section is for?
    why are you always after me? its like your trying you best to push me out :?:

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    It's okay Bevanger.....I am glad you posted it here because I would have never seen it otherwise.

    You just gave me the incentive to ask my uncle about my grandmother's treadle machine that is sitting at my other uncle's house. I don't think it has even been looked at in ages.

    I haven't said anything about it for fear of world war 3 with the aunts but I am going to risk it now.

    Thanks sweetie!

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    Thanks for reminding us to at least ask! Today! I am going to my mothers to get my grandmothers machine before someone else in the family claims it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lfw045
    It's okay Bevanger.....I am glad you posted it here because I would have never seen it otherwise.

    You just gave me the incentive to ask my uncle about my grandmother's treadle machine that is sitting at my other uncle's house. I don't think it has even been looked at in ages.

    I haven't said anything about it for fear of world war 3 with the aunts but I am going to risk it now.

    Thanks sweetie!
    THANK YOU for understanding hun. I do hope you get yours :D

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    Quote Originally Posted by Up North
    Thanks for reminding us to at least ask! Today! I am going to my mothers to get my grandmothers machine before someone else in the family claims it.
    Thanks hun. I hope you get yours. I try not to think of all the times my grandma sat making clothes for my dad, the quilts for her family. BIG SIGH!

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    But you have those memories and they are forever! My grandma had her treadle converted to electric- so no pretty cabinet. She never used it after that. But I will get it and see what I can do with it. My mom just said yesterday that Grandma and Grandpa would have been married 100 years this month!

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    100 yrs? WOW!
    Yeah I have TONS of memories. Mom said I took after my gma cuz she crocheted, knitted, hand embrouidered, sewed clothes, quilted etc. Only thing I can't get the hang of is knitting :oops: I have hand carved knitting needles my grandpa made and Grandma made my dad and his brothers & 1 sister things. My Aunt gave me them. I have them on my sewing room wall. :wink:

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    Maybe she remembers where she got rid of the machine. You may be able to track it down and buy it. It's worth a try. Maybe your sister thought since you didn't seem upset when she asked for it, you weren't interested. She's your sister you have a right to make her feel a little miserable over this! :wink:

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    I can't believe she did that!!!!!!!!!!! I understand you being furious. Nice guys finish last...perhaps we should stop being so nice and speak up for things that mean a lot to us - like grandma's treadle and all that sort of thing. Sorry this happened to you, our wonderful sweet Bev... :(

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    So sorry

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    Quote Originally Posted by BellaBoo
    Maybe she remembers where she got rid of the machine. You may be able to track it down and buy it. It's worth a try. Maybe your sister thought since you didn't seem upset when she asked for it, you weren't interested. She's your sister you have a right to make her feel a little miserable over this! :wink:
    this was ohhhh 78 maybe. its been yrs. since it was an antique and in good condition, i'm thinking she sold it. hubby says to just let it go. my sister is self centered.

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    Isn't this what the PDA section is for? Or should all 30 year old regrets be put in this section? Please clarify!

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    I know the feeling my grandmas had 2 Treadle machines and 1 cabinet from her mother and mother in law. I did not know until later that she had sold the cabinet and 1 machine for about $10 each. Bummer ehat was she thinking (RIP Grandma). So that iswhy ai am nit sure which treadle i have I do know It belonged to one of my great grandmas. I keep hoping it is the one I learned to sew on.
    I know your feeling :( :shock:

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    Bev....so sorry this happened, but at least you do have those memories of her!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Esqmommy
    I can't believe she did that!!!!!!!!!!! I understand you being furious. Nice guys finish last...perhaps we should stop being so nice and speak up for things that mean a lot to us - like grandma's treadle and all that sort of thing. Sorry this happened to you, our wonderful sweet Bev... :(
    I swore after that, I WILL speak up if I want something. I just felt bad and didn't want to be greedy. Funny thing is ,she quit sewing and I'm still going head strong. Oh well life goes on.

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    Quote Originally Posted by reneebobby
    So sorry
    thanks hun

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