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Old 10-12-2010, 02:50 PM
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I frequently use a comment made by a couple of quilting instructors have used in class..."It's not a mistake, it's a design decision". there are so many things that turn out differently than we expected or even hoped, that we have to be flexible enough to leave some in...and those become design decisions...Yes, I designed that ruffle in one corner for a little surprise! Yes, I designed the cut-off points on this one just because I liked the look. Yes, I designed it so it has one block turned the opposite way because only God is perfect.

I make a lot of design decisions in my work, and no one is the wiser.
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Old 10-12-2010, 09:26 PM
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What a good reminder.
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Old 10-14-2010, 04:25 AM
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Been working on that for some time now! and so much easire to say I can, a positive mental attitude, working on that

I couldn't mess with a computer say 12 years ago, I can now say I CAN! the binding on quilts, just a few months ago! now I CAN , still a work in progress, and is getting better, But I can say I CAN!

I can do a lot of things I couldn't not too long ago! so ladies heads up You can !!!!!

Like Janethagy; I also went back to school in 2004,( at age 58) got me an associates degree, which is just sitting on my wall for me to look at, but I did it! I accomplished something I wanted to do for years! Like some one said, If you put your mind to it you CAN do it!. I always thought I was stupid, not worth anything and so on, not just because of the schooling, I learned who I was and what my purpose is on this earth! . If I can do it so can you.
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Old 10-14-2010, 05:11 AM
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When we were kids, we would say "I can't". My mom would tell us to put the "can" down and do it anyway. This has always stayed with me. You CAN do anything that you set your mind to do.
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Old 10-14-2010, 09:31 AM
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Can't pass math...thats me, I have a dyslexia, but oh yes I did go back to school and I did get a BA and a decent job. I did take math, I had to, all the way up to Statistics (awful) and Trigonometry (really awful). I just kept plugging away at it, I asked tons of questions, handed in the homework even though it was mostly wrong. I think the prof saw I was really trying hard and took pity on me and gave me a D. Now I would have been on the deans list except for math. But that was a while ago and I did get work, no one asked me to do math with out a calculator or what my grades were....so I guess confidence is gained by trying, for sure you won't be perfect, so what, it is sort of like when in grade school and they threatened to put "it" on your permanent record....guess what no one notices your permanent record. Go forth and do even if you think you might fail, you might surprise your self, you won't shame your self and you will never have to say..."if only I wasn't such a scaredy cat I would have..." you do not learn from your successes you learn from your mistakes and failure is a great motivator to learn to learn in a different way. At the very least you will be able to say I tried, I gave it my best. When Edison was working on finding a suitable filament for the light bulb he tried over a thousand things before he found one that worked. Later a reporter asked him about this and asked how he dealt with the disappointment of failure,,Edison replied that he had not failed over a thousand time, he had discovered over a thousand things that would not work....go, do, don't let fear get in your way.....and you will be fine.
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Old 10-14-2010, 10:58 AM
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I tell people who are "down" and negative- think of one thing you do well or like to do. Count that as blessing #1. Then think of another- oh gee, that's blessing #2- then keep going.

You find out you have confidence in yourself, you need to wade through all the negatives you've built up around it. I have a Facebook account and I have friends that say they start out their day for my post- always something positive and I try to be funny.

It's so much easier being positive if you "shoo" away the negatives and don't let them in your life. It takes a conscious effort at first, but you will whittle them away and then the next thing you know- life is truly happy and satisfying! (and the negatives are really not so bad- they are dealt with and shoved aside)

This week I was overwhelmed (to put it mildly) at work. I thought- I have got to put this in perspective, I know it will work itself out but it was dragging me down. So I wrote- how do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. So for 2 days I had elephant for breakfast, lunch and dinner. I even said I was then having fish- because I was floundering. I got words of encouragement. And the elephant is done- today was pizza for lunch. haha.

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And you said the magic words! I have had classes for the past 4 1/2 years, took math at least 5 times, and failed every time, so here is one "CAN'T" . Some have told me I just am not well versed in it so let it go! all the math I took and just not able to pass it, I did kick myself a lot, but now , I am feeling much better about it. It is not crippling me, I am setting my sights to other things, oh before I go any further,

why in the world am I doing quilts??? triangles, squares, circles, etc etc, and I laugh about it ! the formulas and all, thats what messed me up in math!!! still funny to me......... BUT this is more fun! thought I would add that.
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[why in the world am I doing quilts??? triangles, squares, circles, etc etc, and I laugh about it ! the formulas and all, thats what messed me up in math!!! still funny to me......... BUT this is more fun! thought I would add that.[/quote]

It is not that you cannot do math....you do math all the time. It is that the way you were taught was not working. You are obviously a global thinker. We all have different ways of learning, some are linear some are not, unfortunately most classes are taught in only one limited way. When you do math for a quilt you think in terms of the whole and then the parts. So many half square triangles, so many squares then you put it together math wise....four patches to make up one square and so on and so forth. If you had been taught geometry with quilt squares you would have gotten it right away, same with fractions, and so on. I used to work with low IQ residents teaching them living skills. They could all learn, the challenge was for me to teach them in a way they could learn...would that all teachers were able to do so. My oldest son who is very bright is a multi-dyslectic. He had nothing but trouble in school and hated it. I tried to help the school understand he was a kinetic learner and what worked with him but they were not interested in hearing me. He graduated from college with a BA magna cum laude after years of undoing the damage done to him by standard teaching methods. He also acted as a mentor and tutor to other dyslectic college students. There are no can-not's in learning only unsuitable teaching methods. Find your own way and you will do fine.
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Originally Posted by CarrieAnne
How does one get confidence, if ANYONE knows, please tell me?!!!
This sounds silly at first, but believe me, it works. Look at yourself in a mirror, smile and say to yourself: I like you, I LIKE you, I like YOU, I love you. After you giggle the first few times, it makes you feel good inside and better prepared to face the world with confidence. The best part is you'll really start believing and feeling what you're saying. You certainly deserve to love yourself.
Another way to gain confidence is to "act as if". Before you head into a stressfull situation, visualize yourself handling this situtation with confidence. Then, when you actually enter the situation you'll be better prepared to be confident.
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Old 10-14-2010, 03:58 PM
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We don't use words like stupid and hate in our house. We find less harsh words to substitute. We can dislike something but the only thing we are allowed to hate is sin and the devil.
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