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Old 06-01-2010, 09:33 AM
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My darn lawn mower quit yesterday. Sigh. I got to thinking my Dad had a lawnmower he can't use. (my son has been mowing his yard for him) I asked if I could use it and was told no my sis might need it. Please understand my mom passed four years ago and I go over every night I don't work and spend at least a hour making sure he is Ok and visiting. My sisters son has taken his snow blower and the other son has his big grill. I guess this hurt more than I realized it would. I know my sis is going through a divorce and I have been there all the way for her. I went through a horrible divorce 10 years ago and no one in my family was there for me. So I guess this hurt me more than I thought. I guess no good deed (making sure dad was OK every night ) goes unpunished. Sigh.......this is really getting me down. Thanks for letting me vent.
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Old 06-01-2010, 09:41 AM
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Much better to say what you think here than to someone you love. We understand and won't hold it against you. Loved ones might. Hope it all works out ok.
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Old 06-01-2010, 09:55 AM
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oh girl we must be kin to each other LOL
i can feel your hurt - I have been done this way so many times by my mom - I also went thru a divorce and noone from my family was there .
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Old 06-01-2010, 09:58 AM
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Sometimes life just doesn't seem fair. Sorry your family is acting the way it is now.

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Old 06-01-2010, 10:00 AM
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What you're doing for your father is a good thing and you will be very thankful you spent as much time making sure he is all right as you are.

Hopefully your sister just doesn't have a clear mind right now and doesn't realize things are not being distributed equally.

You can always vent here with your quilting buddies! {{{{{hugs}}}}}
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Old 06-01-2010, 10:06 AM
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been there, done that, got the t-shirt....
my parents had 4 kids but to hear them tell it, there were two....
and my kids don't exist..
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Glad you vented. We are here for more than quilting. I don't know why but family dynamics always seem strange to me. It seems like most families have lopsided relationships, favoritism etc.
You are not alone, honey!
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Old 06-01-2010, 10:25 AM
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I know where you're coming from. I used to feel like my dad rolled out the red carpet for a certain brother and expected me to have it vaccuumed for him! Now that dad's been gone for some years I can look back and be glad for everything I did for him. And I realize we all did what we could at the time and place we were in. Hang in there!
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((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))
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I can relate to your feelings, but in the end you will be thankful, happy that you spent the time to be helpful and attentive. Your goodness shows to others and quite frankly to the family, even if they are not able to show their feelings towards you. If not for your love and patience towards others would you be happy with yourself, it is a God given gift and one you harvest well.

Bless you,
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