My hearts not in it

Reply Subscribe

Page 2 of 10

Last »

Thread Tools

07-18-2011, 01:19 PM

#11

bearisgray

Power Poster

Join Date: May 2008

Location: MN

Posts: 24,390

How do her two other children treat their quilts?

How does your niece treat them? (the quilts, not the kids)

07-18-2011, 01:20 PM

#12

moonwork42029

Super Member

Join Date: Jan 2011

Location: Possum Trot, KY

Posts: 3,843

You could pretend you didn't know but that could throw you into a tailspin if they hit you up later.

I agree...it is for the baby...hopefully the baby will still have it later in life and realize you loved it before it was even around. It might be the nicest thing it has as a memory.....

IMHO

07-18-2011, 01:25 PM

#13

bearisgray

Power Poster

Join Date: May 2008

Location: MN

Posts: 24,390

It's kind of the pits to be a third or fourth born kid.

07-18-2011, 01:26 PM

#14

Cybrarian

Super Member

Join Date: Aug 2010

Location: Tampa Bay Area, Florida

Posts: 2,229

I agree with Moonwork. If you focus on the baby-- project 10 years from now when he/she is wondering why you made the 2 siblings quilts, but not him/her. I completely sympathize with your situation and feelings, but IMHO I'd focus on the baby--it sounds like it's going to need some tangible signs of love.The prequilted panel, or at least a panel with a simple border sounds like a good compromise.

07-18-2011, 01:33 PM

#15

marymc

Senior Member

Join Date: May 2010

Location: A lake in Minnesota

Posts: 491

Babies are always gifts from God. This new little one will likely get less in the way of gifts and attention because he is #3. If you can find it in your heart to make him his own special quilt I doubt that you will ever regret it. if you are busy with other things now you could always make something after the birth or as a birthday gift in the future. Try not to allow your feelings for your niece to adversely affect this innocent child.

07-18-2011, 01:34 PM

#16

fabric_fancy

Super Member

Join Date: Jan 2010

Location: at my sewing machine

Posts: 1,916

i certainly wouldn't feel the need to make another quilt for her.

i'm sure she still has the other 2 you've made and can use them with the new baby along with the tons of other baby items they have received over the years.

i would give them a college savings bond because it sounds like they are really going to need college funds if they are having so many children.

07-18-2011, 01:38 PM

#17

Painiacs

Super Member

Join Date: Sep 2010

Location: Upper Michigan

Posts: 8,248

Just because u make something doesn't mean the baby will know u made the quilt unless it means something to parents. Instead of theQuilt u could make bibs, burpcloths and buy a pkg of diapers!!

07-18-2011, 01:38 PM

#18

MellieKQuilter

Super Member

Join Date: Mar 2011

Location: Washington State

Posts: 1,199

I just picked up a panel from a yard sale that is a noah's ark picture, it would be perfect to bind up as is for a baby. If you are interested, I can post a pic and you can have it. :) (only if you are interested....) I totally understand where you are coming from... And whatever you choose is your choice. :)

07-18-2011, 01:56 PM

#19

carolaug

Super Member

Join Date: Sep 2010

Location: Behind my sewing machine

Posts: 7,202

25.00 gift cert...at target...she will be happy and you will be free...I would rather give quilt when the kids are 5 or 6 and twin size. Baby quilts just are not used long enough and they get so many...

07-18-2011, 01:59 PM

#20

Sandee

Super Member

Join Date: Dec 2010

Location: middle America

Posts: 2,849

Quote:

Originally Posted by EagarBeez

My niece is pregnant again. Seems every 2 years or just about she has another baby. She didn't mention it to me, nor did my sister. I found out through her facebook telling her friends "I'm preggers and loving it"
Well I made baby quilts for the 1st 2, but, I told my DH my heart was not into making anymore. What if she continues having kids?? I would have to keep making baby quilts???
Her and her boyfriend both live with my sister, and I only hear from my sister if there is a problem of some kind. Same with my niece.
I don't care how many children they have...but since I made 2, I felt obligated to make another. My DH told me, why not just get something small.
Do you think I should just get something small??

I have/had EXACTLY the same problem-it ended with 4 & that's only because it was the limit on C-sections. ..I did make all 4 1st quilts. #'s 1 & 2 have 3or4 quilts, #3 has 2 quilts & #4 will have 2 this Xmas. And I have already spread the word that I am DONE. If I were you I'd do like someone said & just bind a quilted panel. believe me, they won't be any more or less appreciative either way if you're not hearing from them. IMHO.