harrold48

Hi, you are a lovely lady and seem to be feeling that you HAVE to give this ungrateful lass a gift. The baby is the innocent one here. I think you most probably feel better to give the bub a gift...just not a quilt. The bibs etc or a gift card (for baby goods only) sounds like a practical way to go. Do what you feel is the right thing to do for your piece of mind.
Take care

thismomquilts

I say make the baby a quilt - he/she may appreciate it one day.

Doreen

I just have to put my thoughts on this. I have neices that continue to have children with out being married.One has 2 with 2 differnet fathers and they one is around. The lastest neice had a baby shower for her 3rd child and you would not believe what was on her registry. For example. Big screen t.v., picnic chairs to total 20, vacuum cleaner, I was apalled. I sent a congrats card!
My sister has 4 children with 4 fathers! I am amazed at this current society.

BETTY62

I understand what you are feeling but please don't punish the baby for something his/her parents have done.

SueSew

Beautifully said! We give all gifts from the heart but our handwork is a special show of appreciation and caring.

As beautiful as your quilts are, I doubt it would compete with cold hard cash, unless your family is in competition for your services and trying to one-up each other.

I suggest you run over to Kids R Us or Babies R Us and get 'em a gift certificate. Thus is both obligation and duty fulfilled. If anybody asks, you're fulfilling charity needs, or out of the country or whatever.

Phannie1

I would have to make a 3rd quilt. the baby will still need something from his aunt no matter what momma does. Anyway, if you don't, will you reget it later?

EskapetheNorm

My youngest ... loves the double flannel receiving blanket that is just stitched around the edges and corner to corner. I would probably go with something super easy like that or the panel that several others have suggested. I don't have much patience for folks that are full of gimme's. I received a quilt for my first, my mom gave me the materials for the second baby and I made quilts for the next four ... don't feel obligated if your heart isn't in it. She is bringing them into this world and can figure out blankies if that is what they need.

Nanamoms

That's what I was thinking, too. If the children appreciate them, then think about how the new baby will enjoy it. If mama threw them in the closet, then don't worry about it, You can alway make burp pads which are so much quicker. You could piece the top and back it it with a water (spit up) proof fabric. Would think you wouldn't need much batting at all. Don't want it to be thick, probably flannel would be fine. Not much time and I bet it would be used!!

Now to throw a wrench in all this great advice, what if the children "discover" the quilts later on in life. Would they appreciate them then????

Life is never easy, is it????

renee765

I agree that the quilt is for the baby, and that the baby is a completely innocent little soul. Having said that, and having heard that one of the previous baby quilts was given to the dog, I might give the mom a gift certificate for now, then make #3 (or #3 and #4) a toddler size quilt when they outgrow their crib. By the time the baby is in a toddler bed, it will be able to understand that you made a quilt just for them, and it will be special. Who knows what might happen to a baby quilt that you make right now?

CloverPatch

Rationally speaking. I have four kids.

Any parent with mulitple children usually uses the same baby stuff with each kid, especially when they are close together.
Unless the previous two children have laid claim to those quilts and won't let mom reuse them I see no need to make another. I mean really, how many quilts does a mom need. I had my favorite blankets and used them with each kid.
Each of my kids picked their blankies, that they sleep with.
Your not punishing anyone.
You made her a baby gift, she has babies, keeps having babies. The gifts you gave her are still usuable. Less there is something else she needs, and ASKS for, your not obligated for anything.