virtualbernie

Yeah, that's the way mine are--the 2 boys are big and she's small. She's so small that my bil used to tease me telling me he was going to report me to the SPCA because I wasn't feeding her! He called her my "Clipart Cat". When she came back I had her spayed but she only got wider--no taller. Now she looks like a football with 4 legs! The only difference is that the boys are actually friendly and laid back (they came from a multi-cat household)--she's the one that doesn't like them! I actually have to watch her around children because she doesn't like to be picked up and will scratch or bite if held longer than 3 seconds...you can do anything to the boys.

mommafank

I would discourage cat fights as the Vet bills for resulting infection can run you big time--------1000.00 for me last time.

Lyn

First of all thank you for your confidence in me. Second of all I am sorry for your loss. This picture is of my two boys who never knew each other at first but got along famously. The orange one, Diego, died suddenly of a heart attack. The grey brown one, Freckles, had a tough time of it. He would sleep in every place they had been. He even laid at the front door where Diego had collapsed. It was tough. My thoughts are if you are home a lot you can see if after a while your baby can get over it. It took Freckles 3 months. I had other cats that helped him play. If your female is having troubles and you don't mind having another cat, I would look into a12 to 16 week old kitten or really a teenager. The smell of mama is gone from the kitten. It will make your female young again even though at first she will hiss and fuss. I feel cats are better in twos (although I have taken that to the extreme :) ) The best toy you can get for a cat is another cat. Oh yeah, Freckles has bonded with the most crotchety old smelly female I have. She hates him. She snarls and hisses at him but he loves her anyways by rubbing his head on hers.

aliaslaceygreen

Lot's of great things here....thinking I may send this thread to my husband, because he is OVER this entire experience, and there only STILL three cats in the house because I won't let any of them leave. We took them in, they are family and you know what, I have family members that are just as irritating (although they don't PEE everywhere!!!)

girlsfour

[quote=mommafank]Wanted to share a home recipe for removing cat urine smell-----it really works. I have tired several of those you buy and those are just scents that cover up and when gone well there remains the smell.
http://www.catsofaustralia.com/urinestainremoval.htm

The 'recipe' to get rid of cat urine just seems to make sense and a lot cheaper than buying the stuff at the store. Don't really want to use it but sort of can't wait to try it!!!

And yes, I love my three cats!

kathome

Two things I'd try. First is make the 2 boys smell like the girl, and/or vice-versa. That's worked for me in the past, or take all three to the vet's office and let all three "pick up" the smell of the vet's office that is mixed in with many other animals. This seems to make a difference once they are all back home.

The other thing is to install a temporary screen door on the room that the girl is in. (Use the existing hinges on the door frame) They can see one another, smell one another, but can't fight or get hurt.

Good luck. Cats are difficult to figure out. I guess that's why we love them so.

Toni-in-Texas

Our son and daughter-in-law have a cat that was saved from having to go to the shelter. She spent the first year in their house upstairs. She was afraid of the other cats and the dogs. Gradually she would come down for a little while and then back upstairs. She's in there with all the rest now and loves everyone from the chihuahuas to the pit bull mix and the other cats, too. And they all love her, too. Give your baby time and she will come around sooner or later.

LindaaJR

I have had cats all my life and whenever I added a new one to the group, I did not keep them seprate from each other. I just introduced them, played with them all for a while and left the room. Some cats become good friends some do not and will slap the one they do not like whenever they walk by but usually is not a hurting slap, just one to say "hey you are on my terf and I do not like you". Since you have kept them seperate I am not sure what you should do at this point. Make them spend time with each other for a few minutes in the kitchen? put all food bowls in same room. I have several outdoor cats that I have given them homes because they had to leave their former homes for some reason or other. I would put the new cat in a large cage like a ferret cage for a week so it could get used to other cats and the new home. It has worked out very well. The cats have a couple "cat houses" they can go into and the barn. It is kind of fun to watch them interact with each other and how friendly some are to others and how some are standoffish. Good luck. Take care
Linda

Jamiestitcher62

Aawwww, your babies are adorable. I have always had two kitties and now just having one seems weird. We work all day and we don't let her out until we get home in the evening, so she only goes outside for about 4 hours a day during the week. I could go for another one, but my husband doesn't want pets at all but is resigned to the fact that he has no say at all. I just wanted to make sure that if I decided on not getting another kitty, that my Schmoo wouldn't be adversely affected by being alone.

BARES

Agree with both of these, but would like to add one thing. Take something -- blanket, towel, etc. something each have used on their own, and give the boys towel to her and her towel to the boys. That way they can trade scents. Also helps to put yourself in the mix by petting her then the boys and petting them and then her. This way it trades scents and they know that you are interacting with them.