Today, my husband and I got an invitation to his 2 yr old grandsons birthday party. I made plans to go out of town the weekend of June 10-12. I've had these plans for a year.

You guessed it! The birthday party is Sat. 6/11.

I'm torn on what to do. Any thoughts?

Thanks,
Debby

Well, my children wait until the last minute to do anything no advance notice, so if I have something already plan, I just tell them, sorry send a card/gift, and maybe will be able to atend next year! LOL

My thought is that your plans have been made long before the invitation was received. Therefore, your husband should graciously represent both of you at his grandson's party, supportively explaining that you had a trip planned a year ahead that could not be cancelled. And, you should make plans to do something just from you to the grandson as a token gesture of good-will.

Just what I would do...take what works for you & leave the rest.

I feel your pain..we go through this several times a year. I figure after all these years family/friends know we try to make all BD's, etc; however, there are so many now and not all plan ahead of time like we do. I send a gift and enjoy my trip!

1sr Birthdays I never miss, after that, if I can make it, if not, I send a super fantastic (to a kid) gift with lots of little packages to open and candy, candy, candy. I also call during the party to let everyone know I wish I could be there.

Send a card and do what you have already planned to do.

Ask your husband to deliver the gift from both of you.
Carry out your plans you made a year ago.

Send a gift along with him. Call the child to wish them a Happy Birthday but Grandma had plans for a long time. Then go enjoy yourself.

I am quite a distance from my gds and we webcam its great. perhaps your family can let you lurk if they have one.
if not threw the whole party but perhaps for a bit threw the day.
Sandra

you did not say if your out of town plans were for you and hubby to have a get a way weekend..if so..then the 2 yr old will get over it..he actually won't even miss you or remember the party, so it is the parents who will have to understand...