Conculsion that quilters
 

are a much more civil and nicer group of people. I have a couple of other boards (who will remain anonymous) that I look at. There seems to be a lot of snarky and mean spirited people there. I don't think that because we have moderators that will pull stuff, it's just that we're nicer.
Now, I'm not trying to be snarky, just something I've noticed.:)

Bottom line is, there has always and will always be those who are "snarky and mean spirited" people. It has nothing to do about a certain group or a certain hobby that will change them. Even on here, all though its rare, there have been rude comments. Recently someone made a comment about something that she found interesting and the next thing you knew she was being rung thru the ringers for it. She didn't deserve that. I believe if I can't be nice then I say nothing. Even with my family, including my kids especially now that they are grown, when I don't agree with how they think, I don't agree I just keep my feelings to myself and change the subject. Some battles aren't worth starting and some are never winnable so why start them. I'm thankful for the nice people that I meet even if its online or in person and when I meet someone who has different opinions or rude ones I take it for what its worth. For me, that is nothing. Our members just happen to be a nice group of people and have also learned that sometimes you just have to ignore them. I am glad though that the moderators keep an eye on what goes on this board.

I was watching a webcast the other night on garment making, this lady is great but every once in a while rude people go on there and say really nasty, not rude but nasty comments and they are kicked off. No one has to say a word, like on here, they keep an eye on things. Thanks to all the nice people and the moderators who take care of the ones not so nice.

This has been a while back but I had made a comment about how I didn't think it right to be so demeaning to another quilter and the one I didn't mention a name but was general about it sent me a really nasty "pm". That was ok and maybe they realized this old gal was not tolerating the rudeness toward another. I have not seen any more comments or posts by said person. This person was actually being like a bully in my opinion and I told them that in the "pm'. This old gal here has been bullied often and at times some still try but having been diagnosed with cancer was my biggest and I've gotten that one conquered in my own little mind. I don't take it anymore and I tell them I am sorry if they've been bullies all their lives because they thought that made them stronger. It doesn't. just makes them lower than a rattlesnake under a wagon wheel stuck in a gutter.

so well said i decided your entire comment should be repeated. and, i too, wish to thank the moderaters for their great work here.
tessagin ..i, being a short nerdy personality who has evolved into a shorter nerdy personality with gray hair, has been a favorite target of bullies my entire life ..i have taken to heart the admonishment "get over it" ...it works ..it hurrts ..but i just get over it. thank you on behalf of other targets of bullies for carrying on the defense quietly in the back ground.

I was in a group setting where older people were asking, "Do you have any regrets? What would you have done different?" that sort of thing. When it got to me I answered, "I wish I had been nicer". It made the whole group go quiet, and someone said, "I never heard that one before". Well, its true. I wish I had smiled more, said please and thank-you more. Been more patient. Said only positive and uplifting things. Stayed quiet when it didn't matter. Been kinder to others. Over a lifetime this is hard to do, every day. Today, I practice, in years past, not so much. If people were not nice on this board, I would be elsewhere.....But here I stay....thanks, friends, for being so nice......Jane

Thanks, Nancy. I appreciate the great job you do as a moderator to make this a pleasant site to visit.

I have left other boards also, but I always feel safe here.

I appreciate the kindness that everyone whom I have had on this Board, have given me. They have gone out of their way to be helpful and upbeat! Thanks.

The administration of this board has been very good. When I started there were several people that were very snarky and they were run off. It was rather surprising that someone would be that way but they were. Since I was young I have had very little trouble standing up to bullies, but I was like the rest of you, this should be a safe place, why would anyone feel the need to make mean/nasty comments.

I appreciate this forum because I believe it is a safe and comforting place to spend a few (or several) minutes at the end of a long hard day. It relaxes me to look at all of the wonderful sewing projects and to read the nice supportive comments. My DH is in the close to the end stage of a long battle with cancer and I am his number one caregiver. One hard part of the day is because of the three strokes I've had. So anyway, here is where I come for a peaceful few moments to relax from the stress of the day. Thank you all for making this a safe place I can count on nightly. :thumbup:

I don't belong to any other boards cuz I love the members on this one! It is such a motivating and fun place to be...I always appreciate the talent, knowledgeable, helpful and friendly members on the QB. I would probably get more sewing done if I didn't spend so much time here. LOL

I love this board and have learned much from it. I clicked on the alpaca yarn ad. I have someone who lives about 5 miles from me that raises alpacas. Will buy some yarn from them but I do hairpin lace crochet will I need to learn how to knit? Guess I could learn. ha I learned the hairpin lace about three years ago and am on my 12th afghan. you can do it while watching TV or when riding in a vehicle. I go on bus trips and there are three of us doing this now.

I agree that this board has a lot of great members and are supportive. I subscribe to some quilter blogs and sometimes they receive some nasty comments about what they say. Without naming names, one was reconsidering what she was doing, but there were so many of her followers that sent support that she continues with what she is doing.

Most of the members are nice most of the time.

And when not, a moderator usually steps in

I'm just getting back to this board after being gone for several years due to work. Now I'm retired and always knew this is where I would return because of the positive, supportive members. On a few other boards there were members that just plain weren't very nice. Makes me wonder what was going on in their lives that make them take their problems out on other people through snarky comments. Or, do they feel insecure in some way and quilting is where they feel they are the authority [banging fist on the table]? It's kind of sad, really.

When I found the Board, I found my tribe. I appreciate the moderators for keeping this a nice place for people who do not participate in or appreciate smug or snarky attitudes. I do believe that quilters are a very special group and I am very happy to have found an online family of passionate, smart, kind friends.

I agree that this is a nice soft place to be. I used to visit another quilting site many years ago, and left because there was a cyber-bully clique there. Who needs it? Not me, for sure.

This is the best board. I have seen a few comments that at first I took as a, Whoa!. Then when I tried to reread it in a different way, I could see a nicer tone. Sometimes my coffee hasn't sunk in. It's my morning ritual. Quilters are the nicest folks.

I've never seen an ugly comment on this board. I was on another quilting site for awhile and someone was pretty rude to me and I just deleted myself from that board. As a mostly self taught quilter I don't always know the terminology or how to do a sewing thing so I sometimes ask what might be considered stupid questions. I appreciate nice, helpful answers and not some smart aleck comment. This people on this board have been very helpful and nice.

I have never encountered snarky folks here, but it dismays me, when people are nasty, mean, and hateful because they think they are anonymous.

Bullies, including those who make snarky comments, are attempting to make themselves feel superior. They have no clue that it makes them less in the eyes of others who value kindness and gentility. Thank you all for your kindness and gentility.

My motto is treat others the way you want to be treated. It works for me!!!!

We will keep you and your husband in our prayers.

I belong to a quilt group (I will not be rejoining this year) that at least once or twice a year has to be taken to task about their actions. There are little cliques and little groups that are considered the oldies and sometimes they are just mean spirited and always rude or dismissive of other members. It saddens me because many of these women are getting on in years and there are not many younger quilters who are coming to the meetings because of the way these ladies act.

oh, reading this reminded how much I enjoyed doing hairpin lace so many years ago. Don't tempt me to buy another gadget, a book, yarn.......don't even know who would sell the gadget.........

Ahhhh Little triangle is good to know - but, I also have not seen 'snarky' on this board.

Clmay, that is what my Daddy always taught me to be. Kind to all. It's just part of who I am and being nice usually gets nice back.
My son likes living with me, i'm good at fixing things for him. like making the cuffs on a sweater he likes smaller, etc.
Men. He could learn to quilt, couldn't he? Then we would have more to talk about together! I will get on that right now. more quilters. Yea!!

I find difficult to believe that "quilters, artists in our own way, who recognize the beauty and skill required to do what we do could be anything but kind and gracious. We may not agree with other peoples' colour schemes but we very
rarely want to put that in print! There are unhappy people in the internet world who, if they find a doorway into any forum on-line, just dump and try to shock and hurt. It's power to them. Thankfully, we have a very vigilant administrators, who over the years have refined this forum to what it is, a group of like minded artists who are here to share and support and encourage each other. Kudos!

I like belonging to moderated groups because it keeps the snarky folks out. I was in a group years ago and it closed down because some really mean folks got on it and flooded the group with ugly comments. It is so much nicer here. I can't always figure out where to put some of my comments so I also appreciate it when the moderators move it to the right spot.

When I read about things like this, I am often reminded of a line spoken by Jimmy Stewart in the movie "Harvey."

"Years ago, my mother used to say to me, she'd say, 'In this world, Elwood, you can be oh so smart, or oh so pleasant.' Well, for years I was smart . . . I recommend pleasant. You may quote me." And now, sixty years later, I have.

Or to express it in my own way: Starting a few years ago, friends of mine began to pass away. I realized that, one way or another, the rest of my friends and I may have only a few years left. So I decided to enjoy time with them as much as possible.

Tate

Oh i loved "Harvey!"