Thanks for the laugh . I'd never heard that before. :lol: :lol:

Mine usually wants something when he does help out or he's just in it for himself. Example: He'll do laundry and only do his. If I did that it'd be WW3 in the house I'm sure. When I do laundry I do for the both of us. :roll:

hilarious!!! Thanks for the laughs

I am so happy for you both. My DH has passed on and I miss him so much. God bless you both and Happy New Year.
PS He was a great cook and so is our son and son's father-in-law! The women in our family just aren't very good at that! Weren't we lucky to find the guys we did!
PPS and now who wants to cook for one!

My husband hates clutter and I'm sort of immune to it so he picks up more than I do, but I do the actual cleaning of stuff and since I'm a stay at home, I do most of the cooking, and he's not allowed to do laundry. I wish he'd do the kids' bedtime routine more because we only get so many chances to read to them before it's no longer so special to them. He works mostly from home so sometimes I wish for a little alone time but it's also nice to have him here to help, especially since he said he'd cook dinner tonight because I'm not feeling well.

My husband is the greatest guy, always willing to help out, the one thing he does everyday is clean up the kitchen after we eat and I really appreciate that.

He'll do anything if I ask him, but only if I ask. He takes care of the outside things. Once in a while I'll mow because I don't work full time in the summer, so that helps him out.

I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia about 20 years ago. I was in a lot of pain, worked all week, came home on evenings and weekends and cleaned and did all the 'stuff' that needed to be done. And then there were the kids...

Mind you, DH had his own set of 'stuff' that needed to be done - lawn, house maintenance, car maintenance. He was already doing his share.

Finally, after months of this routine, I said to my husband, "Darling, I can either work (for money) or I can clean and take care of the house. I can't do both. You choose which one I do."

He chose me working; that was a good choice because of how much I was making. I told him to hire someone to clean the house once a week, but he didn't like the idea of a stranger in the house. So he took on housekeeping. I still had to cook and do dishes, but that was ok. He added laundry to his list of chores because his workshop shares space with the washer and dryer. He took over dusting because my allergies got really bad, dusting sets them off. And that's even with the allergy meds!

Now that we're retired, I have talked him into being my "Salad Man". He makes a good salad.

I am so lucky to have him!

My DH is a much better housekeeper than I. He is neater; I have a 'high tolerance of clutter.' He does the floors 90% of the time, more than half of the marketing, and he does some cooking, too. He makes a curry that is divine! He also looks after the vehicles, mends the fences, takes hay out to the sheep, picks up the livestock feed......And finds time to make me a cup of tea and bring me flowers for days that end in 'Y.'
I do the laundry, 90% of the cooking, 95% of the dish washing, and have no complaints at all!

This was going to be about my exact response, but as I was still reading this I hear the vacuum start up in the bedroom, made me laugh. I have a keeper, and he does about 1/2 of the cooking, and he makes bread.

My DH is wonderful at helping around the house. He did all the dishes after dinner tonight!!!!

While I can relate to some of this I have to admit that I have a wonderful husband who helps me regularly. He always does the ironing and the vacuuming, he also frequently scrubs out the shower recess for me as I can not kneel to do the floor properly.

My guy is wonderful about doing things inside and outside the house plus he has a touch of ADHD! I must admit though, I almost had a heart attack when he first started doing laundry at my place -- he threw black t-shirts, jeans, and whites in the same wash! :shock: :shock: Now I just thank him for the offer but say I'll do my own laundry! ;)

no no no no and NO! - He said helping is "woman's work" We DO eat out alot; frankly - I'm tired of the cooking and cleaning bit and not ashamed to say so.

Mine helps with anything inside and does everything outside.

I retired from teaching two years ago and for most of that time it has been a really sore spot with me that I worked for 30 years and retired to become the housekeeper ( he was fantastic about house things before I retired). AND I know it made sense... I now had an extra 8 hours a day that I didn't have before! But my son's gf help me put it in perspective... a clean house, supper cooked and laundry all done is a gift I can give myself and hubby every day.

He still helps on weekends and wraps his arms around me and says, "When I am retired I'll take over the kitchen and you can sew all day long!" C'mon May 1 2013!!

I agree.

HA HA My husband cleans, dusts, vaccumms, washes dishes, washes clothes and even watches the baby till I get home.

He does pretty much does everything except cook. We don't want him to cook!

I am the luckiest woman in the world. DH started doing wash years ago when I started to work. Now that we are retired he still does it and if I have a project going he cooks and makes beds. Not only that he has been concerned about me lifting my heavy sewing machines to go to class so for Christmas I go a Jamome Sew mini , just 5lbs. and gift certificate to Joannes. Can't have him guys.

DH does all the outside work (I'm unable due to a bad knee).

If I ask him, he'll help with indoor work, but I usually do the vast majority. I don't mind doing it, but I do get a little annoyed with him occasionally for creating messes (and extra work) or hazards that could be easily avoided. Stuff like throwing his dirty clothes in the floor when the laundry basket is just a few feet away, leaving food on dishes that gets dried up and difficult to wash when it just takes a second to throw the dish in the sink and fill it with water, leaving his shoes in the middle of the floor where they can be tripped over, etc.

He does work full time and supports my hobbies, so I really can't complain too much. He's a good guy and a wonderful husband. :)

My DH cannot sweep--But can cook, vaccum and most everthing
else. I cook and he does the cleaning up, which I think is
wonderful.We have been maried 58 yrs. and really enjoy life
God bless

dude

My husband and I are retired. He helps a lot. Now that he's back on his feet having had breast cancer, modified radical mastectomy, chemo and radiation, he's very much part of keeping house as well as outside grass cutting and yard work during warmer weather. He does easy meals, pasta and reheats. We grocery shop together, or he shops alone.
I had to adjust to his being around a lot and getting into what was once my territory. We're settled in now and enjoying our retired life together and thanking God for it. As he said, he's looked the grim reaper in the face and now he savors each day.

I had to laugh at some of the comments - and I can relate to many - mine is good at anything he puts his mind to - but after doing for himself for long enough - suddenly I came into the picture and many times he acquires amnesia as to how to do ?????? So, we do a quick brush up on the how-to's and all of a sudden, he wants to take over cooking, dishes and etc; then he is off in another direction for awhile - oh well, I love him dearly - whatever he is doing - it is always for the benefit of us both.

Mine doesn't really and if he does he is more work then it is worth just like yours. It seems to work better for us if he has his jobs of fixing and bringing down the trash and I do my end.

My husband of 47 years is amazing. He has pitched in on every aspect of housework all the years of our marriage. I can relate to the explicit directions that are sometimes needed and when I'm ready to tear my hair out I think I'd rather do it myself. But, he tries and a lot of men won't even do that. He doesn't understand how I can get so excited over a piece of cloth, but he will wait an hour for dinner when a project is close to completion.

I agree!!! My husband does outside chores, mowing, shoveling, laundry (when I need help or am busy) cleaning floors, etc. The only thing he doesn't do is much cooking, but that is okay. He is a gem!!! We have been married 50 years and the responsibilities have shifted throughout the years.

I've always said that my dh is a better wife than I am. His "job" is dishes/kitchen clean up, but he does laundry, sometimes cooking, straightening, 99% the outside work, and anything else if I asked him. I'm still in the wake-up mode and he's already done two projects (his work is seasonal so he's home more now). He's amazing.

ha,haa, the one time my ex tried to 'help' it was like that.... my darling husband is far more likely to do housework than I am these days! ( without being asked) he's doing the dishes as I type! GOD I LOVE THAT MAN!

My Husband WILL NOT go into my sewing room. And he definately WILL NOT CLEAN it up. He cleaned it up only one time...and lived to regret it (the cold shoulder in the bedroom). So now, if I want my room cleaned I do it myself, but as it is it is only cluttered. I have 2 bookshelves that I use for fabric, containers, sewing stuff. I am able to find anything and everything I am looking for. I am able to get to my sewing machine table, and to my huge huge 36 inches high sewing table that is 60"x60". And thats all I need. :) Oh and he does help out around the house. His main job is the Laundry. :) And my whites are still white.

My husband and I are on opposite shifts. He works 4-10 hr shifts and does not get home until 6pm. On the days that I work (I work every other weekend) and days in the week, my hours are 2pm-midnight. He has his chores, he empties the dishwasher (I fill it), he does the vacuuming, and he takes out the garbage and trash. I do the rest and devote at least an hour a day in my sewing room.

When our children (4) were growing, my husband did the laundry more times than I did. I worked out of the home and was a workaholic so if he didn't do it, it may not have gotten done.

Mine insists that he helps, but our conversations generally go the same way. In fairness, he has a job and I don't. As long as he doesn't complain, I don't mind doing it.

My hubby works, I stay at home and take care of our two small grandsons (ages 3 mos. and 21 mos.) I do inside stuff and he keeps up with the house maintenance, and will help me with stuff. If he wants to do man stuff then he needs to let me do lady stuff. What goes around comes around. Married for thirthy-nine years and r high school sweethearts.

I think it depends on how long she has been married. We've married coming up on 39 years and our first year was quite a learning experience when it came to who does what chores and learn to do the over-lapping chores. My hubs will do cleaning and laundry. He is a great cook and his collection of cookbooks rival my quilting & craft books. Once in a great while he will have a "relaps" in memory of "how much soap" and then I know he wants attention as I can get lost for hours and hours in my sewing room. Patience!

We take care of my IL so yep! he helps me with everything.
My sister wants to borrow him...Nope,Not.

I'm very spoiled. My husband does the vacuumming (I'm retired - he still works!) because he is much more thorough than I am. He gets out the shop vac and cleans the baseboards (every time) and the drapes and furniture! He also is a whiz on bathrooms. Takes him about 45 minutes to just clean the 1/2 bath downstairs (and it doesn't even get used very much!). Some of my friends want to rent him out. I think it comes from him being in the Air Force for 23 years and had to clean all the time. But I'm not complaining! He's the best.

I have a boyfriend who lives with me (finance as of Christmas!) and he does my laundry all the time - he likes doing laundry while he is 'tinkering' in the garage ..

my husband does the floors. washing, vacuuming, swiffing, sweeping. he does it all badly but i don't care, i'm not re-doing it. he does ALL outside work and ALL inside work that i deem hubby-work like painting. he does electrical and plumbing and carpentry work and snow shoveling. i do all cooking and cleaning, laundry, mending, animal care and childcare (when necessary). i order all delivery food.
i fill the dishwasher because he overfills, and he empties and puts away.

if i absolutely have to, for anything else, i leave written instructions, such as:

1. lift pan with your right hand and pick up scrapey sponge with your left.
2. with a swirling motion, scrub food bits and grease off the pan until it's all gone.
3. rinse. repeat with dishwash fluid and hot water until sparkles appear and you can see your reflection.
4. using clean dish towel, dry until all water is gone. put away.

when i'm sick, i leave similar instructions for laundry, with my heart in my mouth. letting him do the laundry means i'm dying, the house is piled with every stitch we own and the queen is on her way for her annual visit. it also means that even with instructions that bar-bar the elephant can follow, i will still be buried in a pink bra and underpants. and so will he. (no bra.)

Hubby is a great help. He now is careful with washing clothes, as when we first married he put my new 2 piece suit, He gave me for Xmas. into the bleach. So he has really learned.

Mine only helps out when I get mad. I get tired of getting mad so most of the time I just do it myself. If I say anything he says he is sorry, but he says it more like a challenge not a real appology. Then he says I am picking on him.
sigh!