My husband is ordering my medicine this morning. He said he would not go to the doctor on Friday unless I do and he is as stubborn as me; no more stubborn than me. I do need the medicine but I feel guilty becasue I do not work anymore and I have been denied my Social Security 4 times. I can not even stand long enough to cook a meal or wash dishes.I have a guilt reflex and I can buy for anyone else or the house but not me. Do I make sense?

There's no guilt in needing medicine. If you don't take care of yourself you can't take care of anyone or anything else. Take your medicine.

Wonderful that you will receive your meds! My dad has high blood pressure that went untreated for many years and it has wreaked havoc on his poor body. He has lost the function of one kidney and had to have a stent in the other in hopes to save it. He now has vascular disease and dementia....all caused by prolonged high blood pressure. Please take your meds!!!!

Take your medication. As woman we take care of everyone else but not ourselves.

I'm glad to hear you will be getting your meds. I do understand how you feel about not being able to work. I've always worked and still do. I want to work out of my house, but I figure it will take a good 6 months to build a client base. I worry about not bring in enough money during that time. So for now, I work outside the house 4 days a week and try to work one day a week from home. I have that mind set, I have to pull my own weight. Hubby has been telling me for over a year to quit my job and I just can't. Try again for your SSI, I've read it takes 2 to 3 years to get approved.

Sort of. But it's DF (disastrously faulty) thinking.

Do you have pets? Do they "contribute"? Do you take care of them?

When your children were little - did they "contribute"? Did you take care of them? I think you are still "taking care" of some of your adult children?

Sometimes just "being" is a good enough reason to take care of oneself and to be taken care of.

And if you MUST think about "being worth the cost" - are you able to do more when you take your meds than when you don't?

Or to put it another way - do you require less care when you are on your meds?

Please stay as well as you can.

Why have you been denied your social security? I am lucky that my husband had a good medical plan that I was allowed to carry after he passed away, so I have a good prescription plan. I take 6 meds a day and know I would be in bad shape without them. It is very important to keep taking your meds as prescribed. You should not feel guilty for needing medication.

You have to keep trying when applying for disability. Every time they turn you down, reapply right away. Keep records of everything. I know, been there done that and got it. They pay back to when you first applied when it goes through.

do you have a lawyer it took 5 yrs for me to get my SS got paid for all the time they denied me you will get it. they quit fighting when i turned 55 did have medacare had to pay out of pocket for the gap insurance. thank god workmans comp desided to settle. you will get it and all the way back to the start. i know how you feel not being able to pay for it yourself.

If you can't afford meds....and in just in case no one's told you -- check with the pharamacy. 1) Walmart has generics as low as $4.00 and 2) if you can't afford, some drug companies provide them for free......

AND - my late husband tried 3 times for SS -- if you don't have one -- get an attorney!!! The $$ will come out of what you would be awarded (they don't chg you if you don't win). In our case, we found out thru the atty that the DOCTORs weren't sending in reports!!!! The SS people hadn't had a doctor report newer than 4 yrs....and in that 4 yrs he had developed leukemia and congestive heart failure on top of the emphysema. The judge wouldn't even let them talk --- said you could tell my looking at DH that he couldn't work. He got his SS 9 months before he died.....

You need a lawyer who accepts payment when the check for back SSI comes. My ex-husband got his on the first try because we started with a lawyer. It's much more than regular SS would have been if he had been able to work until retirement age.

I am glad your hubby is getting your meds!! Guilt has no place where your health is concerned! You deserve as much as anyone else.
Working outside the home and bringing in a paycheck should not be what defines your worthiness!!

Actually, it's against the law for ANY attorney to ask for payment from the client...even if they lose. SS has strict rules on the amount an atty can charge, too. Go to the SS website and you'll find info. Look in the phone book and you'll see some of the atty's say they handle SS issues.

Like those said above. SSA is expected to deny your application the first time. SOme who don't really need it won't go thru the steps to get it. It takes time, but the money comes back from the day you applied and teh benefits are well worth waiting for. Having to get an attorney is almost a must and they get half, makes you wonder how things work in our society. Paying one to get help frmo another. Prayers your wait is not too long.

It's been 10 yrs since I went thru it for my late DH, but the attorneys did NOT get half. They got a % up to a certain amount and the price capped.

I think that you should get an attorney that specializes in social security disabilities. I know they want a chunk of what you get, but wouldn't it be worth it to give the percentage to them? Wouldn't it be better than no money at all? Just my opinoin...

It makes me very sad that you have been denied your SS disability. I know a person who gets disability from SS due to heart conditions. This person does quite strenuous labor on the side--construction work, digging holes in their back yard a several feet deep, etc, for cash. It bothers me to see this and know that others who can do a fraction of this, get nothing. I am of the belief that what goes around, comes around.

Here in Wa state I read that once you get to the attorney phase the approval is just around the corner. There are attorneys who work on contingency (sp) it would be worth looking into. Also get a list of their approved conditions and get whatever test needed for that list. I happened to have one test that proved my back issue.

the lawyer i had did not charge me until i won and then SS gave them a check out of what i was rewarded. go th your dr and ask how to get your meds for free there is a program that med manufactures will give you them for free you have to fill out forms and send it in to them i had it until i got my SS. Montel Williams is a big actvist with the program

I'm with you, Donna. I can always spend money on things for my son but almost never for myself,

BUT

if you want to show your family that you love them, spend the money on the medicine. Take it like it's prescribed (no reducing or skipping dosage to make the prescription last longer.) Quit playing "I can tough it out" with your husband and go to the doctor. Delaying treatment or ignoring follow-up appointments only increases the progress of the disorder.

DO NOT give up on Social Security! Keep hammering away at that government monolith and keep applying for the benefits that YOU deserve and that YOU paid for while working. I have a girlfriend who was rejected 7 times in 6 years before she finally was approved. The "back pay" check was quite a tidy sum!

Hang in there, lady! That which does not kill us serves to make us stronger!!

Sue

Hi Donna, try the link below, the user carhop posted this, may be you can find help there too.

http://www.quiltingboard.com/t-83263-1.htm

Took me 2 years to get SSD. I was denied most of my back pay due to not seeing a specific doctor, even tho I had many health issues, many tests, surgeries & had seen several doctors. What SS wants is a paper trail that you have done everything to remedy your health problems. Very few get approved without a lawyer. SS sets a percentage that the lawyer gets from your back pay. The lawyer is only allowed to charge you for phone calls & copies. I saved myself the inflated legal charges for those by getting my own copies & giving them to my lawyer. The SS judge offered to cut me a deal....instant SS, but loose all but 4 months of my back pay. That was a good chunk of change to loose, but if I had not taken the deal I would have to wait another year & also be denied back pay anyway. Don't give up, but do get a lawyer, copies of all your medical records & medications.