So disappointed
06-15-2011, 01:56 PM
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Every year my moms family (i am not close to my dads side of the family but LOVE my mom's side) have a family reunion..over the last 15 years (how long hubby and I have been married) I have averaged going every other year but have twice skipped 2 years...I live in Ohio the reunion is in Kentucky..5 years ago we all went together (mw husband and 3 kids) 2 years ago I went with the kids...hubby called me every day asking me to come home (I went on a Wed came back on Sun) This year I had planned on going with kids again..then my daughter left home so it was just going to be me and the 2 boys..I planned on going on Wed coming back on Sun...reunion is Sat...Then about a month ago hubby decided he is going (he is not crazy about my family) SO I start making plans for a hotel or cabin etc..Then last weekend he told me cause of work (long story but he was BOUGHT from another company in Feb and has no vacation) He can only go if we go down and back the same day...its a 5 hr drive..I was so very upset and almost decided not to go as it would be harder on me health wise and mentaly to only see them for a few hours (if you figure the way he wants to do it we would be there between 6 and 8 hrs)than not seeing them at all..But I was not giving up on going and was trying to talk him into staying at least one night...NOW due to money issues and his job (now he cant get Saturday off) it looks like we wont be going at all...
ALL my family other than my mom, dad and brother live out of state this is the one time I get a chance to see so many people I love so much....
Sorry just needed somewhere to vent...just so heartbroken that things didnt work out...
ALL my family other than my mom, dad and brother live out of state this is the one time I get a chance to see so many people I love so much....
Sorry just needed somewhere to vent...just so heartbroken that things didnt work out...
06-15-2011, 02:15 PM
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Thanks so much...
I was so worried because the quilt I started for it is not finished....Not as worried now but still intend to finish it
Worst part is is 15 years we have NEVER taken a vacation other than going to KY on Sat and back on Sun for the reunion...He promised me last fall when we had some problems that he would take me somewhere might only be a weekend but we would have a couple days of a real vacation at least once (he is a workaholic and thinks vacations are a waste of time and money when there are other things to do)
I rarely leave the house and I know my boys (13 and 14) need some way to get out and have fun at least once this summer but with my health problems it is hard for me to do much..
Hoping we can at least have a weekend sometime this summer to at least do something with the boys
I was so worried because the quilt I started for it is not finished....Not as worried now but still intend to finish it
Worst part is is 15 years we have NEVER taken a vacation other than going to KY on Sat and back on Sun for the reunion...He promised me last fall when we had some problems that he would take me somewhere might only be a weekend but we would have a couple days of a real vacation at least once (he is a workaholic and thinks vacations are a waste of time and money when there are other things to do)
I rarely leave the house and I know my boys (13 and 14) need some way to get out and have fun at least once this summer but with my health problems it is hard for me to do much..
Hoping we can at least have a weekend sometime this summer to at least do something with the boys
06-15-2011, 02:17 PM
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So sorry to hear about your disappointment.
I went 13 years without seeing my grandmother because my husband did not want to spend his vacation in Kansas. We have 2 daughters and it dawned on me that I was never going to see her again. And I couldn't blame him, I had to take the plunge and just go. My grandmother was 88 years old, we live in Southern California, my daughters were 5 & 8 and I said I am going. It was cheaper for me to drive than to fly, so we did the 3 day drive each way. The girls were great, I think we hit every Dairy Queen from Chula Vista CA to Burlington KS but we had a great time. It was a shock to the rest of my family and friends - but life is what we make it. Right?
We did it again the following year and that time my husband decided to come along.
The following year I flew out by myself or her 90th birthday. The end of the year she suffered a stroke and unable to return to her home. So I was glad my daughters got to meet their great grandmother and see where I spent the first years of my life.
Not sure how old your boys are, but even if you had to go by yourself, I would vote that you go and have a good time. So you don't stay as long, you never know who will be there next year.
Try not to stress, I always say when things don't go as planned it will make for a good story later on. Maybe we can't laugh right now, but we will later.
I went 13 years without seeing my grandmother because my husband did not want to spend his vacation in Kansas. We have 2 daughters and it dawned on me that I was never going to see her again. And I couldn't blame him, I had to take the plunge and just go. My grandmother was 88 years old, we live in Southern California, my daughters were 5 & 8 and I said I am going. It was cheaper for me to drive than to fly, so we did the 3 day drive each way. The girls were great, I think we hit every Dairy Queen from Chula Vista CA to Burlington KS but we had a great time. It was a shock to the rest of my family and friends - but life is what we make it. Right?
We did it again the following year and that time my husband decided to come along.
The following year I flew out by myself or her 90th birthday. The end of the year she suffered a stroke and unable to return to her home. So I was glad my daughters got to meet their great grandmother and see where I spent the first years of my life.
Not sure how old your boys are, but even if you had to go by yourself, I would vote that you go and have a good time. So you don't stay as long, you never know who will be there next year.
Try not to stress, I always say when things don't go as planned it will make for a good story later on. Maybe we can't laugh right now, but we will later.
06-15-2011, 02:35 PM
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You mentioned your mom, dad and brother live in state. Are they close enough that you could ride with them? I can see that your husband needs to think of his new job and can't get the time off but that dfoesn't mean you shouldn't go. Hope it all works out. God bless.
06-15-2011, 02:36 PM
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Your husband may not realize that he needs a vacation, but you and your boys know you do, and quiltingcandy is right about getting there if at all possible. It is important in many ways and for many reasons. I hope and pray that you will be able to find a way to go.
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