quiltmau

makes me afraid of getting old-my important things are my DH and dogs. I do like to cuddle under my quilts tho and would hate for them to go missing.
Logn way from nursing home-I hope!!!

tessagin

Have to be careful (and I hate to say this) but there are those beings out there who take what does not belong to them. And it could've been an accident. I saw on one of the posts this week, one of the members worked a label into a flower on a (I believe) a table runner for the bridal table. You may want to try that when you go back. Like maybe stitch it into the darker material with a slightly lighter thread or vice versa. A friend of mine embroiders her labels on the back sometimes in the binding and then takes a fine point permanent marker and goes over it. If anyone tries to remove the thread the marker is still there. So very happy you were able to get it back. Gave my stepmother a chenille sweater of mine while she was in the hospital. It came up missing when she was in the shower. On the inside I had an ID # on the inside of the label. An aide had it on. I brought it up to security since the aide worked on the same floor. We got it back and she was fired. I paid good money for that sweater and my step really liked it.

Jo Anne B.

Oh Boy! My mom is 90, in a nursing home, it feels like all I do is play detective, tracking down and keeping track of what little she has left of her earthly possessions. Whether it be the charger to her cell phone to brand new bra's brand Capri's, her socks, geod...! it's everything!! My sister insists on sending her cash for her billfold $20-40, It is gone before I ever see it.. I get so tired of being a cop/detective every time I visit. My mom suffers from some dementia related to advanced Parkinson's or is sleeping or out of her room, it stresses my mom out so much when her things come up missing.
Interesting fact: If the laundry help misplaces articles of clothing say in another residents closet/drawers, they are not allowed to retrieve it...they can put clothes away, but not remove. I understand, but doesn't help matters as well.
Get this: late Feb. I noticed my mom did not have socks on, only part of her foot was exposed from under her blanket, I asked why she did not have socks on she said they hurt her toe, I peeled back the blanket and found both of her feet were BLACK AND BLUE AND SWOLLEN, I inquired to the nurse who knew nothing about it, mom said they had been that way for a week, I asked for X-rays, her toe was broken. Nobody saw anything, nobody heard anything, nobody reported the B/B and swelling, Nobody knew anything....Needless to say we had meetings, phone calls, all they could say was they were there for my mothers best interest. The person of interest quit before she could be questioned.
I asked that a new policy be put into place that staff wear first name only name tags, they did say because of this incident staff it would be policy, hasn't happened yet...
Sorry and Thank you for opening this thread and letting me vent!!
JB

plainpat

I went thru the Missing "whatever"when my Mom was in a nursing home.These patients are the easiest people to treat badly or steal from.

Who would most ppl believe,someone with memory problems or a "normal" employee ? Mom's wedding ring,engagement ring,all her costume jewelry,all her pretties,clothing,a quilt I made & recovered,boxes of candy her son gave her,lotions,the list is endless.

I was leaving one day when I saw her quilt folded on the back of a rocking chair.I walked in,took it too the directors office,then it went home with me.Was easy to take it there,then fold it up & take it home.My feeling is workers from the top down know about the stealing,but it isn't important to them.

caspharm

I know that story. It's a shame we have to worry about things like that.

Jean45

I have a lot of yarn and make granny squares when I need something mindless to do. I had 2 large plastic tubs full so decided to put them together. A friend volunteered at a nursing home here and said that there were many residents who didn't get anything for Christmas. She was collecting stuff for gifts. The Activity Director said that they were in need of covers for the residents and that they didn't have extra blankets when the residents were in the gerry chairs. I gladly gave 7 afghans and helped my friend deliver what she had collected. A couple yrs later I was in a quilt group looking for a humanitarian project. They knew I had taken afghans to a nursing home. I went to talk to them about quilts. We talked and the activities director said that she recognized me. I thought I recognized her too. We talked about the afghans , that I hadn't seen any on any resident. She said that they all "disappeared" within a couple weeks. That is the fault of the nursing home to not catch the thieves and make examples of them. Only a thief would take a blanket from an elderly person who desperately needed it and had nothing else.

sewNso

when my MIL was in the final stages of her life, she was in a nursing home. i noticed that clothes that were sent to the laundry, were passed out to anyone. name or no name on them.
that's because some patients didn't even have clothes to wear. the crochet items that my MIL had made, which i placed in her room on the wall, to display her talents, stayed there. no one touched them. but we were there everyday. i just wanted the workers to realize that my MIL was valued, that we loved her, and to relate to her and her talents. they did a magnificient job. too bad, not all places are the same. but the nurses and aides there were just wonderful.

jeank

My step mom had a small suitcase with pictures of her wedding in 1928. She was the only daughter of a large Polish family and had a hugh wedding. The photos were her pride and joy. She loved to look at them and show anyone that would look. She had them with her in the nursing home, and they dissapeared.

I wonder about anyone that would take the last belonging that meant anything to an eldery woman. By this time, she had outlived two husbands and lived in her memories.

GrandmaPeggy

It seems that all of us share the same story about items in Mom's/Dad's room going "missing". We experienced the same thing with Mom while she was there, but also, in talking about the "things at home", she wanted us to go get them and give them to "so & so". (We didn't) She even gave away an artificial flower arrangement bought especially for her room. Theft is a HUGE problem and is committed by the poorly paid staff as well as some of the residents. I do not know the answer, but I know I talked to the administrator on a regular basis. It was always surprising how things were hanging in her closet that did not belong and other things went missing. Just sayin'.... We'll all be there one day, so how can we "fix" it now? Maybe criminal background checks for both the staff and the residents?

rjwilder

My mom was in a nursing home for two years. She had dementia and Parkensens. One of us visited her everyday and it seems something else was missing everyday! One day I was asked if I could bring my mom some new underpants. I thought that was an odd request because my mom was in diapers. I went to K-Mart, bought some panties, and sure enough two days later there were none in her drawer. My mom had breast cancer so she had a breast prosthesis in her bra. The idiots washed and dried her silicone breast and of course it melted into a odd shape mess. They had to replace it and boy was that expensive. One day I asked for an inventory of all my mom's belongings so I could buy her some new things. They gave me the list, I compared it to the inventory they gave me when she arrived and it was no surprise most of her things were missing. I filed a claim with the nursing home, they sent it to their insurance and I got paid. During that process I moved my mom to a different home and it was so much better. She went to the new home with all new things and she still had them when she passed away. I was happy to see and know she well dressed and not a rag muffin when she passed.