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    traveling with grandkids

    our grandkids, like most kids now days are into electronics and always have with them some game gadget and if we are traveling to show them a new city or nice site, they seldom pay attention unless we stress out that they stop playing.

    we wanted to take them to Europe this coming summer under condition that they do not bring any gadgets with them and they said that they do not want to go. Now, their parents are trying to convinced that we should allow them to bring their gadgets along and we are saying that we will not spend that kind of money to see them not pay attention ...........

    are we totally out of reality or what?

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    I agree with you. I am raising a 6 year old grandson and understand that parents like to let the kids play on road trips, cuts down on whining. I put his away when I want him to see the sites, just my rule.

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    I am in agreement with you. I have grandchildren of all ages and would not want to pay for what would be a trip of a lifetime so that they could spend all their time with their electronics. Leave them at home with their gadgets and go enjoy the trip on your own. IMHO it is also extremely rude of their parents to expect you to allow them their gadgets.

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    sad but true, leave them behind if all they want to do is play games. have loads of fun!!!

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    What are the ages? what you think as exciting may not excite them. Unless you are willing to entertain bored, cranky kids you might want to reconsider. Let them use their gadgets during travel, then put them up while siteseeing would be a good compromise.

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    i agree that the gadgets should stay home. gadgets are wonderful, but kids also need to learn how to interact with others and their surroundings. all of the experts i have seen on TV say that digital time should be limited to an hour or less a day. i think you should stick to your guns about the gadgets. i also think you should convince the parents to send the kids. they will learn so much about other cultures and places... things that can't be experienced on the computer.
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    I'd see this as a reasonable compromise....only to be used on the plane, train or in the hotel room but not when out and about.
    Quote Originally Posted by bakermom View Post
    What are the ages? what you think as exciting may not excite them. Unless you are willing to entertain bored, cranky kids you might want to reconsider. Let them use their gadgets during travel, then put them up while siteseeing would be a good compromise.
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    He who holds the gold makes the rules, I agree no gadgets the kids would be surprised at how much they will enjoy the trip without the toys.
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    Wow - you have made such a generous offer and they turn it down because they want to play games? I could see they would like to play the games on the plane ride and even at the hotel in the evening because they are used to watching TV or radio which unless they speak the language makes it difficult to listen.

    Maybe the compromise would be the gadgets can only be used on the plane and when in the hotel. If they are caught out at any other time they become trash. No second chances, just leave them in the hotel or the item is thrown away. The computer may not work anyway unless they have satellite connections.

    Also, so that they know it is no idle threat, make them write out the note that if the equipment is used outside the plane or hotel room it will be thrown away. Make them and the parents sign it, so they know there is no second chance and you will not replace it once you get home.

    When my kids were little I threw out toys left on the floor if they were left there too long. Sometimes it is the only way to get thru to them.
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    I agree with you! Why go on the trip when they can play with the gadgits at home? They would miss so much if they were distracted by them. I remember traveling from Iowa to California and looking at the sights along the way. The mountains were amazing to this country girl.

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    Your ticket, your rules! If they bring their gadgets you will be having to nag them to turn them off every 5 minutes. Who needs the stress of constant arguments?

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    I am in total agreement with you. I'm afraid we have bred a generation of button pushers who are oblivious of their surroundings. I don't know if they realize (even, and especially adults, who are always in connection with their electronic toys, be it phones or other things) just how rude it is to be in the company of others and corresponding with someone on "the other end." I feel so insulted when someone's phone rings -- or whatever sounds or music alerts them --and they continue this long chatty conversation while I'm waiting. What would be the harm of saying "Can I return your call when I'm available to talk?" Every Sunday morning, when the commentator makes this announcement: "Please turn off all cell phones or other electronic devices and refrain from text messaging during this time of prayer." I think how absurd our population in general has become that we have to be reminded to use good manners. And still, phones can be heard sounding off. Ohhh, this is a sore subject with me. Sorry for the vent.

    It's too bad that these fortunate children will miss the chance of a lifetime because their parents will abide by their wishes and not back you up on this.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Tartan View Post
    Your ticket, your rules! If they bring their gadgets you will be having to nag them to turn them off every 5 minutes. Who needs the stress of constant arguments?

    Ditto!!!!!!!!
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    Stick to your rules. We took 4 grand kids when the oldest graduated from highschool, because we knew they would soon scatter. They had cell phones, but did not use them except at night to check in at home. They are all married now and often talk about the week we spent as a fun time!!!

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    Can I come with you to Europe? I'll leave my toys home!

    I agree. You set the rules. I have no children, but 3 nieces, and when they are with me, I make the rules too.

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    if they miss this trip, they will be kicking themselves when they get older. But they don't realize that now. Wow. The only gift I ever got from my grandma was a dollar bill in a card (she had 23 GKS).

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    Kids just don't know how to entertain themselves anymore, or how to let the world entertain them...

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    Quote Originally Posted by sandybuttons View Post
    He who holds the gold makes the rules, I agree no gadgets the kids would be surprised at how much they will enjoy the trip without the toys.
    I could not have said this better. There is so much out there, they need to learn another side of life. There's a lot to be said for face-to-face socializing. It would've been wonderful if the parents had supported you.
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    I agree with 100 %. It would be a waste otherwise.

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    thank you for all you writings and supporting me on this

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    I do have to add this.. I was the grandchild that took many trips with my grandparents when younger. Ours was mostly by vehicle. Most of the ride was beautiful or things to look at.. except.. The Dakota's.. the most boring states to ride in. The entire trip looked like we were just on repeat. lol So I read books.. then when the day was over (earlier for my grandparents then me) they were ready for bed..I was younger and still wanted to go..I had books.. I only used my books when I was bored..nothing to see nor do.. It will be the same way with your grandchildren. My grandparents tried to keep me entertained constantly, but our age difference was a factor. Even now when we take our grandchildren.. they do the same thing as I do. At home, they are attached to their ipods, ipads, mp3 players, computers, cell phones... but when on a trip..they are used MUCH less. Plus it amazes me, as they actually notice more details then we do even when they are using their gadgets.
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    I agree, NO GADGETS. J J

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    I agree. If they can't go without their gadgets for such an opportunity, it's their loss.

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    I wonder how old they are, are they to young to go on such a long trip?? I would rather go by myself.
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    How about a compromise, as others have said. Although I am not a gadget geek, think about this: we all feel connected to this board (or to email, or to our cell phones) and we'd hate to be told "NO!" I think it might be fair for on planes or in hotel rooms before bed, but def. not when sight-seeing or at meal times or other family times. You'd actually be doing them a favor, teaching them moderation, because we now live in a techno world. I really liked someone's idea of a written contract, that way no one can say they didn't know the rules.
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