What would you think...?
11-23-2010, 03:44 PM
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Originally Posted by lab fairy
While I hate this tradition, people used to photograph loved ones (or anyone) in a casket at funerals. Some were published in papers, others keep photo albums of the whole funeral (some even video the whole thing, YUK), and others hang those pictures on their living room walls in 8 x 10.
I've already told people I'll come back and haunt them for these things if they even try.
I've already told people I'll come back and haunt them for these things if they even try.
11-23-2010, 03:49 PM
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They used to do this kind of thing back in the day. Like pics of Bonnie and Clyde.
My grandma had pics of all of her dead children in the caskets on her livingroom wall. Freaked me out but it was a tradition and yes she was from the South. Now she would be about 130 now but they definitely did it.
Guess Facebook is just our new family album.
My grandma had pics of all of her dead children in the caskets on her livingroom wall. Freaked me out but it was a tradition and yes she was from the South. Now she would be about 130 now but they definitely did it.
Guess Facebook is just our new family album.
11-23-2010, 03:49 PM
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"From what I understand some of her family was none to happy about it...I just worry about the internet ...it seems to take away common sense sometimes.."
yes, of course it does, people do things now,over the internet that they never would have done..it does get out of hand.
but like i said..it is an old custom..my grandmothers house had "the room" where the dead were kept..at the home, i can not for the life of me remember what that room was called..but it was in the front of the house..
i want to be laid out 1 day, and on my side like i sleep..
funerals are for the living, not the dead... just my opinion and thoughts on the subject..
yes, of course it does, people do things now,over the internet that they never would have done..it does get out of hand.
but like i said..it is an old custom..my grandmothers house had "the room" where the dead were kept..at the home, i can not for the life of me remember what that room was called..but it was in the front of the house..
i want to be laid out 1 day, and on my side like i sleep..
funerals are for the living, not the dead... just my opinion and thoughts on the subject..
11-23-2010, 03:50 PM
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Originally Posted by RkayD
Originally Posted by sueisallaboutquilts
Not just the South. Years ago my Italian relatives used to take pics of deceased people in their caskets, really creepy!!
But I doubt they would have posted them if there was the Internet! My Mom said it was just what people did back then for their private albums.
But I doubt they would have posted them if there was the Internet! My Mom said it was just what people did back then for their private albums.
Her Mom's family did that. I agree with Labfairy- don't even try hahaha
11-23-2010, 04:09 PM
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Originally Posted by watterstide
"From what I understand some of her family was none to happy about it...I just worry about the internet ...it seems to take away common sense sometimes.."
yes, of course it does, people do things now,over the internet that they never would have done..it does get out of hand.
but like i said..it is an old custom..my grandmothers house had "the room" where the dead were kept..at the home, i can not for the life of me remember what that room was called..but it was in the front of the house..
i want to be laid out 1 day, and on my side like i sleep..
funerals are for the living, not the dead... just my opinion and thoughts on the subject..
yes, of course it does, people do things now,over the internet that they never would have done..it does get out of hand.
but like i said..it is an old custom..my grandmothers house had "the room" where the dead were kept..at the home, i can not for the life of me remember what that room was called..but it was in the front of the house..
i want to be laid out 1 day, and on my side like i sleep..
funerals are for the living, not the dead... just my opinion and thoughts on the subject..
11-23-2010, 06:18 PM
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Face book may be a little much but it is the new generation, Face book makes me crazy but I wont go into a rant. As far as pics of the deceased it is a cultural thing. while my family does not take pics I could tell you behavior that would curl your hair. When I was first married 29 years ago I thought people aroud here did not love the deceaced because they were so sober and in control . I learned with time that all areas are diffrent in how the handle grief.
11-23-2010, 06:25 PM
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Wow.. I know they use to do that in the 1800's to early 1900's, but today?? and post it on facebook???my gosh, I totally agree with you, EXTREMELY tacky. Im sorry your heart is heavy with this, but if she brings it up, I would most certainly tell her how this made you feel, not to mention all the other people she shocked by this disgusting behaviour. You may also want to give your daughter a heads up. BTW...I HATE FACEBOOK. Its really ridiculous in my book. Hugs for you!!
11-23-2010, 06:25 PM
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I agree with the fact that many cultures and time periods have their own ways of handling deceased relatives. My husband's family really likes to photograph and video things like this. I just leave family reunions when they break out the home movies of funerals and start narrating. It gets really weird when you get copies of those things (ours are in a box in the bottom of an old antique chest).
I guess if you can hang a picture on your wall you can put it on your facebook page. We all KNOW how private those are (since you are supposed to be friended, etc. :roll: :roll: :roll: NOT).
I guess if you can hang a picture on your wall you can put it on your facebook page. We all KNOW how private those are (since you are supposed to be friended, etc. :roll: :roll: :roll: NOT).
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