What's with the negativity?
01-25-2011, 02:38 PM
#11
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I agree, I usually over look negative posts. Everyone has their right to their thoughts, but I perfer to encourage and look for the light at the end of the tunnel.
I love this forum.
I love this forum.
01-25-2011, 02:42 PM
#12
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Originally Posted by PatriceJ
i, too, am dreading the responses. :lol:
first, let me assure you that your sentiments are shared by far more members than you might think.
now ... on the other hand ... and please do not interpret this as an argument against your point because it is not.
it is possible that we paint with too wide a brush when we throw around words like "most." it does often prove to be true that the majority of people who add comments to the topics you've described tend to add their own negative thoughts and suggestions; what they think are corroborating horror stories, etc. anger feeds anger and things spiral out of control very quickly.
but ... here's the question:
does that necessarily mean that most of our members altogether think that way, and react that way?
i think not. i think the reason such topics remain under the control of the Negative Nellies and Hysterical Hannahs is that the Sensible Sues and the Positive Pams move right on past them without stopping to comment. they avoid getting sucked into all the drama. so it looks like anger, fear, offense, etc are the dominant perspective when they really are not.
so, while i personally agree with what you've said, i must respectfully disagree with the conclusion to which your observations have led you.
the squeaky wheel gets the oil.
the quiet, well balanced, properly inflated wheel keeps us rollin' along on a smooth and mostly happy road.
first, let me assure you that your sentiments are shared by far more members than you might think.
now ... on the other hand ... and please do not interpret this as an argument against your point because it is not.
it is possible that we paint with too wide a brush when we throw around words like "most." it does often prove to be true that the majority of people who add comments to the topics you've described tend to add their own negative thoughts and suggestions; what they think are corroborating horror stories, etc. anger feeds anger and things spiral out of control very quickly.
but ... here's the question:
does that necessarily mean that most of our members altogether think that way, and react that way?
i think not. i think the reason such topics remain under the control of the Negative Nellies and Hysterical Hannahs is that the Sensible Sues and the Positive Pams move right on past them without stopping to comment. they avoid getting sucked into all the drama. so it looks like anger, fear, offense, etc are the dominant perspective when they really are not.
so, while i personally agree with what you've said, i must respectfully disagree with the conclusion to which your observations have led you.
the squeaky wheel gets the oil.
the quiet, well balanced, properly inflated wheel keeps us rollin' along on a smooth and mostly happy road.
Well said, Patrice. :D
01-25-2011, 03:01 PM
#13
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I think instead of negativity it is just having someone to get things off your chest and speak how you think with out having to cause problems in family and friends that will last for ever. We are always saying we are here for each other does that mean we are for each other as long as it is what we want to hear. Woman need something or someone to use as a sounding board someone to bounce things off of to see if the way they feel is unusual or normal. And because this is a hobby that is mostly consisting of women it is a good place to vent and feel better. If you see a post that is negative and you do not wish to pertispate then don't read it go to one that you do want to read and comment on.
Some people have no one else to vent to as they are handicapped and shut in or not in a community that they can find friends easily. You know just maybe with a kind word or suggestion you may turn someones terrible day or exxperience around. JMOP
Some people have no one else to vent to as they are handicapped and shut in or not in a community that they can find friends easily. You know just maybe with a kind word or suggestion you may turn someones terrible day or exxperience around. JMOP
01-25-2011, 03:06 PM
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I think most of this is just people venting and where is the best place to do that then with friends. I would say that 95% of what is on this board is positive and like the others have said if you don't like what you are reading go to the next post. No one is making you read each and every post. We are a big mixing pot here from all over the world and I personally think this is a wonderful place even though I sometimes feel like I have to watch how I say things so they don't get taken the wrong way. Overall I think this board is a great place to just be ourselves.
01-25-2011, 03:07 PM
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Misery loves company and it does help to hear of misery when you have a misery of your own. The mood passes but it helps to waller every now and then.
01-25-2011, 03:10 PM
#16
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Originally Posted by Rachel
I take it more as someone just needed to get something off their chest, so they aren't holding it in. I just read and let it go. sometimes you just need someone to listen.
01-25-2011, 03:30 PM
#17
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Originally Posted by BellaBoo
Misery loves company and it does help to hear of misery when you have a misery of your own. The mood passes but it helps to waller every now and then.
venting, ranting, getting things off our chests, crying on willing shoulders, etc. are permitted there with virtually no interference.
they are not encouraged or appropriate in other sections of the board.
01-25-2011, 03:46 PM
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Yeah, I think sometines a person just needs to vent
01-25-2011, 03:48 PM
#19
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You are completely correct, Patrice. I suppose I should have been more specific. By "most," I really mean most of those who actually post. I'm left guessing as to everyone else's thoughts.
Originally Posted by PatriceJ
i, too, am dreading the responses. :lol:
first, let me assure you that your sentiments are shared by far more members than you might think.
now ... on the other hand ... and please do not interpret this as an argument against your point because it is not.
it is possible that we paint with too wide a brush when we throw around words like "most." it does often prove to be true that the majority of people who add comments to the topics you've described tend to add their own negative thoughts and suggestions; what they think are corroborating horror stories, etc. anger feeds anger and things spiral out of control very quickly.
but ... here's the question:
does that necessarily mean that most of our members altogether think that way, and react that way?
i think not. i think the reason such topics remain under the control of the Negative Nellies and Hysterical Hannahs is that the Sensible Sues and the Positive Pams move right on past them without stopping to comment. they avoid getting sucked into all the drama. so it looks like anger, fear, offense, etc are the dominant perspective when they really are not.
so, while i personally agree with what you've said, i must respectfully disagree with the conclusion to which your observations have led you.
the squeaky wheel gets the oil.
the quiet, well balanced, properly inflated wheel keeps us rollin' along on a smooth and mostly happy road.
first, let me assure you that your sentiments are shared by far more members than you might think.
now ... on the other hand ... and please do not interpret this as an argument against your point because it is not.
it is possible that we paint with too wide a brush when we throw around words like "most." it does often prove to be true that the majority of people who add comments to the topics you've described tend to add their own negative thoughts and suggestions; what they think are corroborating horror stories, etc. anger feeds anger and things spiral out of control very quickly.
but ... here's the question:
does that necessarily mean that most of our members altogether think that way, and react that way?
i think not. i think the reason such topics remain under the control of the Negative Nellies and Hysterical Hannahs is that the Sensible Sues and the Positive Pams move right on past them without stopping to comment. they avoid getting sucked into all the drama. so it looks like anger, fear, offense, etc are the dominant perspective when they really are not.
so, while i personally agree with what you've said, i must respectfully disagree with the conclusion to which your observations have led you.
the squeaky wheel gets the oil.
the quiet, well balanced, properly inflated wheel keeps us rollin' along on a smooth and mostly happy road.
01-25-2011, 03:53 PM
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Originally Posted by SherryLea
I think instead of negativity it is just having someone to get things off your chest and speak how you think with out having to cause problems in family and friends that will last for ever. We are always saying we are here for each other does that mean we are for each other as long as it is what we want to hear. Woman need something or someone to use as a sounding board someone to bounce things off of to see if the way they feel is unusual or normal. And because this is a hobby that is mostly consisting of women it is a good place to vent and feel better. If you see a post that is negative and you do not wish to pertispate then don't read it go to one that you do want to read and comment on.
Some people have no one else to vent to as they are handicapped and shut in or not in a community that they can find friends easily. You know just maybe with a kind word or suggestion you may turn someones terrible day or exxperience around. JMOP
Some people have no one else to vent to as they are handicapped and shut in or not in a community that they can find friends easily. You know just maybe with a kind word or suggestion you may turn someones terrible day or exxperience around. JMOP
All forums have a small percentage of 'venting' posts, it's human nature to have a winge and forums are supposed to be a safe place to do that. It may be their only outlet and they like to hear that others have experienced the same thing. This is a great place to be and I have learned so much in the short time I have been here than I would have otherwise.
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