Annaquilts

Yes, I definitely would but I have a tremendous burden for children in need. If you don't want to bother buy her a fleece blanket from Walmart and send it with a pretty card and kind note. One of my DD's is a big tall girl and she loves all the beautiful big quilts I made her but she also loves a tiny blue fleece blanket some random person gave her. Fleece has agreat tactile appeal and is very soft.

It seems though your heart is telling you that you want to give her the gift of a quilt and maybe that is how you are expressing your love and care for her too.

sally's girl

I am sure she will feel someone really cares...sound like she needs that reassurance..so yes if I were you, I would

ginnie6

just to clarify.....this is NOT a child I am talking about. She is 22 years old and extremely smart.....mentally though I think she is not quite that mature.....like I said there are issues. She's 9 months older than my oldest dd. When we saw her a few years ago she was just very unsure of herself and kind of awkward. That might have been from being around a huge family she doesn't really know but I think not. Things that I don't even think about my kids doing (like getting in the ocean) she was afraid of. My heart really does break for her.....but at the same time I'm very afraid to get sucked into her life.....there have been overdoses and hospitalizations, and a slew of other issues. But if I can help her I would.......I think she is a very needy young lady at this point.

rootyr

I would. You never know what it will mean to her.

Rebecca VLQ

OK, without knowing "the whole story"...

It sounds like this girl has drug problems. And...(in my experience) drug users are an opportunistic lot. They do not hold attachments to people or things, and they are looking to gain the upper hand anyway they know how...that is how they survive. That is their way of life.

No, she probably will NOT appreciate a quilt in the way a "normal" person would. She would not appreciate the gazillion hours it takes to make a lap quilt, even a standard size one. She may not tell you thank you, or express "thank you" in enough ways to "prove" to you she likes it.

HOWEVER...imagine things from her perspective. Not from her drug perspective, but from a place where she has deficits and understands the world in a diminished capacity. She is clamoring to survive. She is desperate to try and make it day to day. A quilt...can't be sold off to "make ends meet". She doesn't have a master suite to display this quilt proudly for all the Ladies Who Lunch to ooh and ah over. It may stay with her for a few months, or a few years. Whatever comfort it can give her during the time she has it is more than she had before.

It costs you only time (and some fabric) to send her some comfort. The quilt is a gift to YOU while you're working on it, to meditate-pray-think about this girl and send her well wishes. Decide how much time you want to spend and do it. Sew with a purpose, and then let all that love and concern go with the quilt, to her. Some of it is bound to rub off, kwim?

Jim's Gem

I think it would be a wonderful way to show her that you are thinking about her and that you love her!

Theresa

I sooo agree. Find a pattern that doesn't take a big time commitment like a Disappearing 9 Patch.

CloverPatch

Nope, wouldn't do it. For some people it is just a thing, they appreciate the thought but not the object.

quilt1950

This was my thought. Can you include her in the quilting making. I've also seen some very easy to make quilts lately, that would not take so long to make. Unfortunately, I don't know their names except that they are 'tube' quilts. One didn't have ANY seams to match.

Happy Treadler

I agree!! I, myself, stopped making home made gifts for hubby's family because they seemed to prefer the store-bought-type. I figure I'd rather just get them what they wanted. Just because it may be special to me, if the recepient didn't think so why should I take my precious time to do it?